Listen, I get that you struggle. And I get that you are most probably not happy with where and what you are right now.
But it is not my fault, that life wasn’t that good to you.
So please, leave me alone while I eat my ice cream with my kids. Don’t stop right next to us and stare and tell us again and again, how much you would love to have an ice cream right now. I totally got it the first time!
You totally lost me by standing there and staring at us, telling us over an over how much you would like to have ice cream (our ice cream!) right now. Starring so much, that you scared the hell out of my kids, especially my little daughter!
You idiot totally lost me and the chance to get ice cream from me! Let me tell you something: As I saw you walking towards the place, I actually thought that I will never ever be able to finish my ice cream and I might offer it to you, if you were interested.
But not under circumstances like this!
You stood there and demanded your ice cream! No, OUR ice cream! Demanded to get something from someone, who paid for it. You have no right to do so! Nobody has! When my daughter looked at me with fear in her eyes and whispered to me how much you scare her, you reached your hand out to grab her ice cream and said “So I take it now.”! Not asking but again demanding…
Oh no! You most certainly wont!
I am proud of myself to tell you that she is not finished yet and to back the f off! Although, by now, she was not able to eat anymore and close to tears because of you!
I am proud of myself, that I did not give in and let you have our ice creams. I am proud that we left with our ice creams. I am proud of my husband who thankfully arrived in the right moment to pick us up and just starred back at you. I am proud at him for saying: “To pushy, man!”
Now let me tell you something:
If you are hungry, why are you asking for ice cream? I get that you might want a treat as well, but should it not be more important to you, to get proper food? Or were just only after a treat? Because, you know, if this is the case, I can take you even less serious!
I don’t understand why you are so bloody pushy! Man, you turn people off! Do you really think anybody would like to share something with you, if you demand them to? I don’t, as you know now. I don’t like demands! It is because of people like you, that certain folks think so badly about homeless people! It is because of people like you, that some people don’t give anymore!
See, if you would have stopped and said “Oh, how much I would like to have some ice cream too. Maybe you have some spare ice cream?” And then walk off. I get it, that you might not want to beg. And if you would have simply made the remark “I would love to have some ice cream too” and then walked pass, I would have totally given you the left overs. G! I would have probably bought you one!
But not like that! Demanding from people, just because they have what you want and because you are jealous of that, is not the right way!
I am tired of people like you, who treat people like me (the ones who are not homeless and seem not to struggle), as if it’s our fault that you are where and what you are. It is not!
Some of you try to make us feel bad about enjoying something! Why should we not treat ourselves and enjoy ourselves every now and then? You don’t know anything about us! You have no clue where we are in our life! You have no clue where we came from!
So back the hell off!
I am happy to give and I do give. But not to people who demand. Because if you demand, you are not worth giving. You will never be thankful, you will never appreciate. You did not look dirty. Your cloths did not look bad… So you are definitely better off than others. You don’t need layers and layers of filthy cloths to keep you warm. And you did not look like you are not getting enough food (that’s probably why you only asked for ice cream…). How about appreciate this! How about appreciate not freezing your butt off in a blizzard out on the street, like so many others have to worry about?
I admit, I’ve never been in your position. But let me tell you something: If I ever get there, I will not let myself get to the point where I scare little kids just because I want something…
I appreciate that I can eat several meals a day. I appreciate what we have a roof above our head and that we are healthy. I appreciate being able to give. And I would most probably still give and appreciate being able to give, if I would be in a different position from now.
Appreciation has nothing to do with where in life you are. And if you don’t believe me, check this out!