Soulmates – Or The Symposium of Plato

“According to Greek mythology, humans were originally created with four arms, four legs and a head with two faces. Fearing their power, Zeus split them into two separate parts, condemning them to spend their lives in search of their other halves.”

Have you ever felt like there is something, someone, missing in your life? Felt as if you are not complete, as if a huge part of you is missing?

I have. For a long time I felt I am searching. But I never really knew what was missing or why I felt so incomplete. I went in and out of some really good relationships (some were shitty too) andI admit that I actually felt like Complete in one of them. At least for a while.

But then I still woke up looking, searching and longing for something more. Something that was missing. Something that would fill that whole in my heart, which although I felt happy and was loved never really disappeared. I asked myself often if it was only a moment, if the feeling of being whole would suddenly be there. Maybe it would just take a little bit more time. Maybe it was meant to be and I just did not feel it right now. Maybe it would develop over time.

You know how they call it the honeymoon period? When you have those butterflies in your tummy and can’t get enough of each other? But then it eases out and life kind of takes over and you realize that there is still something missing.

I asked myself if it really was missing or if I just got used to the person I was with. If this was just the normal way. As I said: honeymoon period was over and now the normal life starts. With all its ups and downs.

I guess life kind of taught me that it was not meant to be like this. I took the risk and continued my search and honestly, in doing so I might just have ended up chasing it forever.

“…and when one of them meets the other half, the actual half of himself, whether he be a lover of youth or a lover of another sort, the pair are lost in an amazement of love and friendship and intimacy and one will not be out of the other’s sight, as I may say, even for a moment…”

I guess I was lucky. Lucky to meet the right person, my missing half, my soulmatei, by coincidence. And it was a different story.

The honeymoon period didn’t last forever either, I admit. But how would it not pass? I mean life is not only cookies and cream!

Although the honeymoon feeling with all those bugs flying around your tummy and the weak knees, the elevated heart rate has passes and turned into something special and deep. Something incredible.

I never felt that emptiness again. I feel complete. I have arrived. And I never want to leave πŸ™‚

“Love is simply the name for the desire and pursuit of the whole.
Love is born into every human being; it calls back the halves of our original nature together; it tries to make one out of two and heal the wound of human nature.”

Plato, The Symposium


18 thoughts on “Soulmates – Or The Symposium of Plato

  1. I loved reading Symposium in university, and I thought Plato’s version of love (Socrates in the play) was not that far off from the Christian story of Adam and his rib (piece of flesh). Either way, something from the original singularity is removed, and the resulting individuals are incomplete until they once again find each other, and then, “cleaving one unto another, they become one flesh”, never again to be parted. Wow, your post took me back over thirty years, and it was just like I was in the same lecture hall. Amazing, and thank-you.

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  2. love the piece and the idea of soul mates – don’t believe in that in real life though – i believe that there are many “the one”s and that it is a matter of choice and then you daily make that choice again to choose to be your person’s “the one” – day after day the choice continues to need to be made and you choose again and hopefully they do too and so soulmates emerge at the end of that tunnel as if in a dance with the daily ritual of choosing a matter of will and commitment and life…

    i wrote a little more on my theory of this back on my blog: – but way less elegantly…

    thank you for sharing
    love brett fish

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      • How long have you been with this person? Sounds really good the way you describe it and all the best for you both, but with most people I know, and especially in this selfish me me me world we live in, I continue to see it as an active needing to choose the other person over yourself. Maybe that choice just comes easier or feels more natural for you. But I imagine there will be days when it require some more effort or will.

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      • 13 years. I know what you mean but we do pretty gpod. I think you need certain compromises to make a relationship work but you should never give up yourself either.


      • i hear you. i imagine we are likely saying the same thing using different words. Choosing the other person doesn’t have to be effort or hard or arduous, just intentional. And it doesn’t mean not looking after yourself, ALTHOUGH if you have two people in a relationship completely looking out for the other person then you have a stronger relationship than one where each person is looking out for themselves first. That is one of the strong things i see in Christianity – serve one another in love means everyone [in an ideal world] is loved but you have the added bonus of relationship – of knowing and really being known.

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      • 8.5 years now. With two kids. πŸ™‚ And both of us constantly make sacrifices for and compromises with each other. TBH that was part of how I knew he was a “forever” guy – open, honest communication between us has been easy and comfortable from the very beginning. I had to keep pinching myself at the start! After a series of rather boring relationships to experience the lightning strike when we first clicked, and basically moving in together two weeks later, was literally mind-blowing.

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