Blast From The Past – Body Issues

A little “Blast from the Past” today. I decided to reblog an older post of mine, one of my very first posts actually. I chose this post as it is something I am thinking about a lot at the moment, as we are clearly stepping into the summer time over here now.

I am not skinny and I don’t think I am big either. I did not feel the need to edit it. So here you go:

My body is not considered unhealthy. Still I have body issues. I do believe I need to loose weight. My tummy is not as flat as it used to be b.k. (before kids) but I can also not entirely blame it on being a mom… I do love my food and for sure I do love a good glass of wine. Or two. Or sometimes even more…

For a loooong time now I found myself in the constant “I need to diet” cycle. Very tiring… And I decided to change that. I still do need to loose a couple more kilos. Well… I do want to loose them. But I want to do it with healthy eating and not cutting out certain foods. You know: A more relaxed approach to it. Not just for me but also for my kids.

And that brings me right to the point. I don’t want to talk about how successful my diets were so far. Rather focus on where the need for it comes from. What triggers that feeling in us? The feeling that our body is just not skinny enough, not toned enough, not pretty enough? I feel every woman, no matter how old, has a body issue. Crazy, right? And can we find a better, healthier approach to it?

I remember my mom trying all sort of different diets and never being really satisfied with the result. I also remember us teasing her because of her tummy. You know, although she felt she was too big, she actually never was. She had a bit of a tummy (seems to run in the family) but that was all. But she tried every diet on earth, I believe. And honestly, I think it affected me. As soon as I got to my teenage years I felt like I had to really watch my weight. And diet… Because, you know, it’s just what you do as a woman.

Looking back: I never really would have had to watch my weight until I hit my late 20ies… But I did. I jumped on the band wagon and felt like I had to join my mom. And she let me. Only every now and then I “let myself go” and just ate whatever I wanted to eat. And actually I could as I was so active and burned it right away. But those were also the moments when my mom reminded me to watch out. She would have never asked me to diet and I know, she only meant that I should not let it slip for good. But for me it sounded like: Stop eating all of that food and go back to your diet! As this was what I wanted to hear.

Our behavior has a massif influence on our kids. As a mom of a little girl I want her grow up as a confident young woman. I want her to look at all those magazines and realize what’s real and what’s not, what’s healthy and what is not. I want her to be happy with her body. And I do want the same things for my son.

But how? How do I make them realize that every body is different? That some boys have a six pack already at a young age and some have to work for it? That some girls are born skinny and will probably always be skinny whereas others have a different built and now matter what they eat (or don’t eat) will never be as skinny as their peeps? How do you get them to the point where they are confident enough in their bodies? Where they don’t get thrown off by a stupid comment?

Our kids grow up with even more pressure when it comes down to their looks. There is so much out there now. All those Photoshopped pictures, all the Silicon and Botox, the nose-jobs, the boob-jobs, the butt-jobs… Where will it end? And on top of it all: The dieting mom. In theory it is simple, right? Eat healthy, make the right choice, control your portion sizes and exercise. In theory…

So I decided not to use the word ‘diet’ anymore. I will choose the words ‘healthy food’, ‘portion size’ and ‘right choice’ instead. And I hope that those words and the action which comes along will manifest itself in their behavior, and together with all the activities they already do, set the base for an active and healthy life. I hope that like that they will end up having a healthy relationship with eating and will never ever end up with an eating disorder.

Happy and healthy kids. In the end this is all that matters. Right?

17 thoughts on “Blast From The Past – Body Issues

  1. If it weren’t for advertising/media none of us would have body issues in my humble opinion. It’s all just such shite. I too have them and you know? My husband doesn’t care how “big” or “small” I am…in fact he prefers I have a weight on…I was always a skinny Manny until I hit my 30’s thank god too I was teased relentlessly as a child and even into my adulthood was often told to “eat a burger”. It hurt actually. I couldn’t help it just my body how it werks! Now I’m on an anti-depressant which has caused my body to gain 2 sizes and I feel huge. To me. It’s not familiar right? And I struggle with this. I don’t feel like my self. Yet I logically know a size 12 or 14 isn’t the worst place to be…as long as I have clothes that fit. Point being, I wish I didn’t care so much. I don’t talk about how I feel regarding my weight in front of my daughter. Ever. I guess I just have to decide it doesn’t matter that my mental health is more important and I am lovable no matter what! Yes, I think we all have body issues and wish we didn’t.

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  2. Well said 🙂 I agree with you. We women have body issues mainly because of the media. Trying to make us follow the “perfect” body they portrayed. Sizes are not the issues. What we need to do is to stay healthy and feel comfortable about ourselves. As an Asian myself, majority of us tend to be small. I was under a lot of pressures to lose weight because I was pretty overweight when i was in high school and people around me keep calling me fat and ask me to lose weight. I tried many different diets, but nothing worked for me until I tried to eat healthier and started doing yoga.

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  3. Good post. School (one particular teacher actually) started me on the diet merry-go-round, having been ‘conditioned’ to what was good/bad and should/ should not, that I screwed my body up completely.
    Now my budda-belly doesn’t bother me so much as it did, it’s just part of me.
    DIET is a four letter word, F O O D, and instead of kids being ‘conditioned’, they should be better educated. After all, F O O D and all it’s combinations are very interesting!

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  4. Good thoughts! There is so much pressure on women to be thin. However, if you look at the statute of Venus, you will she has a rounded tummy! I agree that we need to eat healthy and train our children to do that rather than diet.

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