Yesterday I wrote about how I try to watch my kids without them noticing. Well, at least sometimes. It is one meaning of “Shadowed”.
I think it is an important part of being a parent. And a tricky one as well, as it is keeping this balance between being a helicopter parent and letting them discover and experience on their own.
So where do you draw the line, I wonder? Where is too much too much and too little too little? Where do our worries or experiences, our expectations and maybe our knowledge hinder our kids in becoming independent? And where does it get careless, irresponsible and maybe even dangerous?
I guess this is a decision we all have to make for ourselves and for our kids. I admit, I am a mom, who is constantly watching, supervising from far. Because it is what I feel like is the right way to go. I do as much as I can to keep them safe and happy and there is only that much you can do. So far I never had the impression that the kids felt they were not able to spread their little wings. At least I hope so…
Shadowed
1. Envelop in Shadow; Cast a shadow over
2. Follow and observe (someone) closely and secretly
In response to the Daily Post Weekly Photo Challenge – Shadowed
When they see you and act like they don’t know you, you’ll know you have to stop; or at least hide. 😉
LikeLiked by 1 person
Yep… At this stage they still tell me off… 😉
LikeLike
My children are now young adults and they laugh when they come home, because for all of their lives they have caught me staring at them, and I do not even realize I am doing so. it is not a creepy kind of stare, but like a moth drawn to the light. A recognition of all that is good, and I could look at them all day, if they wouldn’t pull faces back. 🙂 A good mother watches at a distance just far enough away to get to them if they should fall. ❤
LikeLiked by 1 person
So so true!
LikeLiked by 1 person
I’m always watching my kids, trying to without them noticing me. Places like the grocery store or somewhere really busy, scares me the most. Especially after hearing about that little girl that was snatched in the next aisle. I hear more bad than good. I try really hard to let them experience things on their own, but I have to intervene at a certain point. 🙂
LikeLiked by 1 person
Yeah… There is a fine line, isnt there…
LikeLiked by 1 person