People We Are Meant To Meet

warmth8You meet a lot of great people throughout your life. You also meet a lot of idiots. People you would have rather not met. So what do we make of this? Do we struggle with the fact that we’ve encountered an idiot, someone who has maybe hurt us or who has ‘taken something from us’? Maybe… it might make us mad for a while, we might struggle with the idea but in the end we should focus on what we can actually gain from this encounter.

I have encountered some idiots on my way through my life so far. Some of them are people I would prefer not to have met as I really think they are plain mean and totally stupid. But you know, in the end they all gave me something. They all taught me something. And I believe they were meant to make their appearance in my life. They had to show me something, make me realize something. Maybe I did not have a light bulb moment right away but over time somehow it all makes sense.

It’s like the nice people you meet. They too, are there to give you something, to teach you something, to make you realize something. And so are you for them. Sometimes they are like a mirror of you. With all their ups and downs. Over the years I often realized that a person did things exactly the way I would do them but it annoyed the hell out of me. Until I realized that this person was like a mirror in this particular case. And I realized that my approach to certain things was not the way it was supposed to be. So I changed. And things got better.

Yes, I believe that we are meant to meet the people we meet throughout our life. We are meant to spend some time with each and everyone of them, no matter how good or bad they are for us. We are meant to learn something from them and then build on this lesson, so that we can make the next step forward. Sometimes it’s easier to see and sometimes it’s not.

I know how much of a struggle it can be to deal with people who are not good for you. And that’s what they are: Not good for you. Maybe even toxic or dangerous. And you need to get out or get away from them. But then look back and ask yourself what they might have taught you? What their message might have been, what you can take away from this?

I’ve met two ladies in the last 2 years, by coincidence. Well, I’ve met one of them personally and the other one in the virtual world. They both inspired me. I’m sure it was meant to happen. I needed to hear their story, to see what they are doing to move forward. Although it might not be in the same direction they are going, it still taught me to start moving again. To do! Today they are both Facebook connections. I would not even call them friends and still they both are important to me and will probably always be, as they inspired me. Did they do it on purpose? No! Not in my case. But they had a massive impact in my life and I am glad this connection was made.

Funny enough I stumbled across this post while I was writing this. Maybe it was meant to be too πŸ˜‰ And it basically says exactly the same… It also triggered some more thoughts in me. Especially the part where she says that if you believe that there is meaning behind every encounter, you live your life kinder, more patient and more loving. What a beautiful thought.

And I guess that is probably true. It’s what you want to teach others. To be kind, to be patient and to be loving, gentle and caring. Saying this I do wonder what happens if we try too hard… For sure it will not go unnoticed. It will appear fake, right? So what is the right thing to do? Should we try to be all of the above? Or should we try to be ourselves.

Look, I always go for ‘be yourself’. Because that is the only true thing you can do. But I also believe that you should always try to be the best you can possibly be. Be the best you, you can possibly imagine and try to make yourself even better. Day after day. And take what is offered to you. Take the advice, the inspiration, the motivation others give to you through whatever they do. It’s meant to be. You are meant to receive it and use it. You are meant to build on it and move forward. And it’s okay to take it, to use it as you are giving too.

30 thoughts on “People We Are Meant To Meet

  1. I love this topic! The most difficult people are teaching us the most important lessons. Because they don’t care about you but trigger something within you (mirror) that brings you in motion. Those are soul mates too. We must never forget that. Lovely souls who provided themselvers in order to help us develop. Another thing we must never forget: We are a mirror too! We also might trigger something in others. This insight is important to be aware of that game and also tolerant. It helps to not take things too personally and simply concentrate on the imbalance within us. In the end it is not the other person who challanges us, but what we have to work out with ourselves. If we were all centered the other person could do whatever he or she wanted and we wouldn’t care at all. Wonderful post, my Swiss friend. Compliment!!!

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  2. I agree, that the best you can be is to be as loving, kind and thoughtful as you can be. And the answer, I think, to your question of “what happens if you try too hard” is that it is perceived as disingenuous, or dishonest.

    I think that it is through being honest that the connections happen. Authentic. Shades of vulnerable. In a world filled with manipulation, dishonesty, personas and reserve, meeting someone who dispenses with all that and just is true (and imperfect)… Instantaneous connection.

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  3. Reblogged this on galesmind and commented:
    I think the universe puts certain people in your path. With social media it has expanded that pool and has made us a better society and also worse in some ways. Either way we are touched and changed by others some for the good and some for the bad. I have met some people on social media I may never meet in the real world but have become dear to me. I have met some that I wish I never stumbled upon. With almost a billion people on Facebook alone it is inevitable you meet both. I use it and move on. Great post.

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  4. Hubby and I were meant to meet, it just took us a few extra years. He used to frequent the same places as I did but on different nights, and when in the Falklands, the guy in front of him in the ‘pen friend’ letter queue picked mine out of the box.
    Thing is, if we had met all those years before, I don’t think we would have liked each other, or appreciated what we have now.

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  5. Very interesting post. I believe nothing is an “accident” in this life. People will cross your paths as you go along, really interesting people with amazing stories. My concern however is we seem to be closing in on ourselves and by doing so, we prevent so many of these accidental meetings to occur thereby minimizing a multitude of possible connections. But if we don’t allow ourselves to come into contact with the good and the not so good, we lose our ability to filter. Wow, your post has really stimulated some deep thought. Must go away and think about this some more.

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  6. Wonderful message and I agree with it. Every person that touches us no matter in what way has taught us something. It may just be how not to do something. Always remember too that you never know what someone else has been through it might take a while to find a message you need to hear. So love the be kind message you write and in saying this I believe it needs to be reblogged. Such a great message

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  7. As I read through your blog, I thought of all the nasty or not-so-nice people I have encountered in my life and it was truly a lesson I learned. Whether it to be a little more cautious, to find myself, to better myself or just to learn how not to be, these people meant something. All the positive people mean something too, but I already knew that.

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  8. Thank you for your message, i actually reblogged it to Lone. I truly believe in this – when the student is ready the teacher will arrive. When I was having trouble with my teenage daughter, i stumbled across an article, which told me just this, your daughter is your mirror, all the things that you yearned to do and did not do and did not accomplish come up in your children’s behavior and this is mainly for you to have closure and move on, accept things as they are and know that life loves you and wants the very best for you. Thank you for your blog. Namaste (from my spirit to yours, I salute you).

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