“We all get jealous from time to time – What wakes the green-eyed monster for you?”
Honestly… I don’t know. I struggle with being jealous. I try not to be. Don’t get me wrong. I get there too, sometimes. But the feeling is usually not really strong. It’s more like a “how nice would it be to be able to do this or afford that” feeling. It’s not really jealousy.
Jealousy is a strong feeling. In my eyes a very negative feeling. A feeling you get when you are not really happy with yourself or the life you are living.
I’m really trying to come up with something. Tell you a story about me being super crazy jealous. But I can’t. I’m thinking of a moment where I felt I go up in flames because I felt so jealous. Maybe because of a man. I’m trying to remember a moment where I felt jealous for someone to own something. Not getting anything. I’m trying to think of a moment where I was super jealous of someone for reaching a goal I would have loved to reach. But I’m still blank…
Honestly, I’m not going to far back in my memory. I know, I’ve been there. I’ve felt jealous in all those cases. But it was ages ago and I was really immature. In my opinion a part of growing up and maturing is loosing this feeling of jealousy as it doesn’t help you at all. In the contrary. It blocks you, it stops you from seeing clear. It’s a long learning process and I wonder how I can teach my kids already now that being jealous will not help them get what they want at all.
Yes, sometimes it seems like the grass is greener on the other side. But you know what? It’s only greener on the other side because it has been watered.
And that’s the point. You can spent and waste your time being jealous instead of putting all your effort into reaching your goal. There are certain things you can’t influence. You can’t force love, so I guess you will have to deal with it. But by being jealous you might push the person of interest further away instead of making this person notice you. Or maybe they do notice you, but in a bad way. And you lost! In all the other cases you can actually do something. You can work on your dream. You can make it happen. You can move forward and step by step get closer to your goal. No need to be jealous!
We are in charge of our destiny. What we can’t change is the destiny of others around us. If they reach a goal faster than we did, there is a reason for it. Observe and learn from it. And then build on it.