Yep, I’m talking (or better writing) to you. How are you today? Did you have a good day so far? What time is it where you are? How do you feel right now, in this moment?
It’s almost mid day here and my kids have a little break from homeschooling. My son just decided to make some oat cookies and from the sound of it he is about to destroy the kitchen. But I decided to not go and see how he’s doing until he comes over and asks me for help. I know he will not cut his fingers off… My little girl is looking at a book and eating her lunch while she’s cuddling our bling cat.
I feel good right now. It makes me happy to hear my son bake something and watch my little girl be so cozy.
But I know that there are people out there who don’t feel so good at the moment. People who are ill or who have lost someone.
And that’s why I was asking you how you feel. Yes, I would appreciate an answer if you don’t mind. You know, I had this conversation with one of my followers about my last post (Original Me) and she mentioned how hard it is to open up (in short). She mentioned how everyone always claims to be positive and how some people tell you to always see the positive and always enjoy the ride… I know I write about this often too. As much as I’m all for staying positive and trying to see to good sides even when times are dark, I agree that you simply cannot always enjoy the journey. Sometimes that trip is bloody hard and not really pleasant. And you know what: Yes, you should be allowed to complain about it and also to feel sad or angry or upset in general about it. As long as you don’t lose track of the good things, which are still in your life. And there always are. Even if they are little.
I said to this follower that I feel that there is Yin and Yang in life, there’s black and white. Why shouldn’t there be a happy and sad, a motivated or frustrated in your life as well? We need this little see-saw too. But don’t get stuck on the down side.
I also had a conversation with another follower who mentioned a friend, who feels bad at the moment but can’t share this feeling with anybody because she feels they don’t understand it. How sad, right? What makes us feel that we can’t share our sadness with anybody anymore? It makes me wonder if we are really a society of people who don’t care anymore. Are we a society of people who don’t care how the neighbors feel? Would we realize if something is wrong with our best friend? And if our best friend would open up to us, would we bother to help? And to what extend?
I got a message of a friend of mine on Facebook the other week after posting a lot of “negative” stuff (like what was going on in the Faroe Islands and some stories about other mistreated animals and about trophy hunting). He told me that he might have to unfriend me for a little bit as I would bring up negative things. Ugly things that go on in this world can no longer be shared to raise awareness just because people only want to see a picture perfect on Facebook? Interesting, isn’t it? I mean, do you really think that all this positivity out there is real? Do we care at all that a lot of it is fake? No wonder people struggle to share when they feel down if all they see on social media is happy people. It makes you feel like an alien if you don’t feel good. And unfortunately when you are down you don’t realize how fake and pretend everything else is.
I actually often think that it’s easier to share with strangers than with people you are friends with. I don’t know why. Maybe it’s because they don’t have a certain image of you and you don’t feel like you need to keep this up. How sad though if we can’t share what’s going on inside of us with the people closest to us?
So back to where we were in the beginning of this post. Hello, neighbor. That’s what you are in this blogging community. Let me ask you again: How are you? How do you feel? How was your day? Did you do something that made you happy?
If you are after a little bit of Inspiration check out this post here.