Hi.
Yes, you.
Yep, I’m talking (or better writing) to you. How are you today? Did you have a good day so far? What time is it where you are? How do you feel right now, in this moment?
It’s almost mid day here and my kids have a little break from homeschooling. My son just decided to make some oat cookies and from the sound of it he is about to destroy the kitchen. But I decided to not go and see how he’s doing until he comes over and asks me for help. I know he will not cut his fingers off… My little girl is looking at a book and eating her lunch while she’s cuddling our bling cat.
I feel good right now. It makes me happy to hear my son bake something and watch my little girl be so cozy.
But I know that there are people out there who don’t feel so good at the moment. People who are ill or who have lost someone.
And that’s why I was asking you how you feel. Yes, I would appreciate an answer if you don’t mind. You know, I had this conversation with one of my followers about my last post (Original Me) and she mentioned how hard it is to open up (in short). She mentioned how everyone always claims to be positive and how some people tell you to always see the positive and always enjoy the ride… I know I write about this often too. As much as I’m all for staying positive and trying to see to good sides even when times are dark, I agree that you simply cannot always enjoy the journey. Sometimes that trip is bloody hard and not really pleasant. And you know what: Yes, you should be allowed to complain about it and also to feel sad or angry or upset in general about it. As long as you don’t lose track of the good things, which are still in your life. And there always are. Even if they are little.
I said to this follower that I feel that there is Yin and Yang in life, there’s black and white. Why shouldn’t there be a happy and sad, a motivated or frustrated in your life as well? We need this little see-saw too. But don’t get stuck on the down side.
I also had a conversation with another follower who mentioned a friend, who feels bad at the moment but can’t share this feeling with anybody because she feels they don’t understand it. How sad, right? What makes us feel that we can’t share our sadness with anybody anymore? It makes me wonder if we are really a society of people who don’t care anymore. Are we a society of people who don’t care how the neighbors feel? Would we realize if something is wrong with our best friend? And if our best friend would open up to us, would we bother to help? And to what extend?
I got a message of a friend of mine on Facebook the other week after posting a lot of “negative” stuff (like what was going on in the Faroe Islands and some stories about other mistreated animals and about trophy hunting). He told me that he might have to unfriend me for a little bit as I would bring up negative things. Ugly things that go on in this world can no longer be shared to raise awareness just because people only want to see a picture perfect on Facebook? Interesting, isn’t it? I mean, do you really think that all this positivity out there is real? Do we care at all that a lot of it is fake? No wonder people struggle to share when they feel down if all they see on social media is happy people. It makes you feel like an alien if you don’t feel good. And unfortunately when you are down you don’t realize how fake and pretend everything else is.
I actually often think that it’s easier to share with strangers than with people you are friends with. I don’t know why. Maybe it’s because they don’t have a certain image of you and you don’t feel like you need to keep this up. How sad though if we can’t share what’s going on inside of us with the people closest to us?
So back to where we were in the beginning of this post. Hello, neighbor. That’s what you are in this blogging community. Let me ask you again: How are you? How do you feel? How was your day? Did you do something that made you happy?
If you are after a little bit of Inspiration check out this post here.
I’m doing well if a little tired. My back hurts, but that’s par for the course. ^_^ It’s about 7:35 PM right at the moment and I was just about to turn off the computer for the day when I saw your post. Hi!
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Glad to hear you are fine. Look after your back and have a good rest of the night. I’ll catch you tomorrow 🙂
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I am doing okay. I think I am going thought a bit of a mid life crisis, so been edgy for the last couple of months. Who knows…
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Don’t tell me you guys have this hormonal mood swings too! I thought I will only have to deal with mine. If you tell me now that I might have to even out my husband’s too, then… oh boy… 😉
I hope you will feel better soon. I usually feel edgy when something is bothering me and I can’t really get it out of my “system”. It usually helps me to find someone to talk about it.
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I don’t think I have anything in particular bothering me….ah crap, I dunno anymore. I think I just need to get my lazy butt back into the gym and work out this edginess.
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It helps. Has to do with kicking your endorphins into the gear too.
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Dear M 🙂
Just published a post listing my beautiful friends I discovered today. I am feeling good. The more I am interacting with people better I am feeling. It’s fun to be in the blogging university here. I am enjoying learning and I am enjoying friendship. I am helping my friends and getting help from them. This is a wonderful experience for me.
I like your post. I have listed you in my new beautiful neighbors post. Please check out the other wonderful people I have started to follow recently if you would.
I wish you good afternoon and a great day ahead. 🙂
Sincerely,
Anand
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That’s a great idea. Good on you for listing them, us. And thank you for including me. I will check it out right away. Yes, this community makes you feel really good. I agree with you 🙂
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Glad you liked the idea. Have a nice time visiting other friends 🙂 🙂
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Hello Blogging Friend. I feel pretty good today. Just recently came back from vacation, and sometimes I think it is easier not to go on vacation, because I realize when I am on vacation that I spend way too much time working when I am at home. Which then makes me think I might be missing a lot in life because I work too much and then I am tired when I get home and all I want to do is rest, so I can go to bed, then get up and do the same thing the next day – go to work, come home, go to bed, get up. But then I am glad I have a decent paying job, so I can go on vacation. It’s the quagmire of life.
However, I really don’t have much to complain about. My children are teenagers, but they are good boys with goals, it may just take them a little longer to get there, but I know they will.
So maybe you are right – I need to focus a bit of my evening or morning time doing something I like. I will. I will make a concerted effort to get up at 5 and start writing again. And I will do this tomorrow.
Thank-you so much for letting me talk this out with you. This has been quite therapeutic!!!!!
I hope you have a most lovely day tomorrow!!!
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Glad I could help! 🙂 Yes, you should free some time to do something you like on a daily base. Might just put an additional smile on your face. Feel free to come over and chat whenever you need it. Fro now: Have a good rest and a good day tomorrow 🙂
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Thank-you!!!! You too!!!!
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Hi There ^^
It’ 10.33AM here ini Jakarta and I’m at work. Well actually sitting in front of my laptop with a cup of tea besides me. Quite a hectic day today, but since joining Blogging101, I force myself to spent few minutes to at least take a peek on The Common. Reading most of my fellow blogger’s post. And your blog is the 1st blog I visit today.
I really wish you have a wonderful day today. For your post had brighten my hectic day ^^
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I’m glad I brought a little bit of sunshine to your hectic life. Don’t forget to every now and then stop and breathe and look up from what you are doing. Try to see the nice things around you and then focus on your work again. It will give you some well needed energy 🙂
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I’ll surely remember that ^^
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On top of my mood swinging towards the depressive side the past couple weeks and a baby who hasn’t slept much the past two night, I could be better. But this too shall pass.
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I send you a virtual hug. Is your baby teething? Just look at the beautiful little face and the eyes. Look at the little feet and hands and enjoy their cuddles.
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Thanks 🙂 I can’t see a swelling on her gums, but feel she has to be. Tried some Motrin tonight, hopefully that’ll do the trick!
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I’ll keep my fingers crossed for you both 😘
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Hi, actually really bloody great, thanks for asking. I just landed in a wonderful location on holiday’s…. Have a burger for lunch and a rum and coke while.I wait for my room
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Awesome 🙂 Well then enjoy and have a wonderful vacation! Can’t wait to see pics 🙂
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Thanks….wishing you and your readers a truly fabulous day
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Hey lovely, my daughter and I also had a break from homeschooling and played the board game, Life. She won! Today is a challenging day. I am in a lot of pain and have had to take strong pain relief. Have to run my daughter around to guitar, gymnastics and then art. Looking forward to climbing into bed at 9.30! I love that you encourage people to say it how it is. If we all do this, imagine how freeing it would be!
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Hope you will have a good night and that the pain will ease. 😘
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Thankyou my friend. Xx
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Glad to know that you have taken an initiative to check how others are feeling. I am doing good and thank you for asking that. Hope you are also doing great.
But I also wont share/post/publish the not so good side of the world. The world already have a lot of rubbish to offer even without anyone’s help. So do we really need to add to this?
So even if it is faking, I’d like to fake that there are a lot of positivity out there. 🙂
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I totally see your point. Don’t get me wrong, I like a happy place too. Thanks for commenting 🙂 Keep up your great work!
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No, I didn’t get you wrong. I got your point too. I am sure you do like to be positive like everyone else 🙂
Thank you. I will try 😀
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Hello, today I am doing good. Yesterday I was feeling lonely then had some nice things happen with my blog that made me feel a lot better.
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So happy to hear. It’s a great community, isn’t it?
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Yes it is!
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Hello there! I have finally written an About page so I feel pretty accomplished haha.
Just the other day I was reading Dorothy Parker’s short story called “Big Blonde” which I think shows perfectly what you and the other blogger were discussing. Everyone in the story hangs around the main character only because she feels required to be in a cheerful attitude all the time…
If you have the time, give it a read. 🙂
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Will do! Thanks 🙂
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Hi, I am just winding down after a busy 12 and a half hour night shift at the hospital. I am feeling tired but not able to wind down for sleep just yet, I have mixed feelings about my job at the moment too, I am being used to do so much more than I should, then treated as a nobody by managers when it suits. However, I love working with many of the staff. I have applied for a new job, but not sure what I want really!
Glad you are feeling contented at the moment, and enjoying the company of your children 🙂
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I hope it all works out. Nothing worse than feeling used. Been there too. I’ll keep my fingers crossed for you! 😘
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This is such a lovely post, Sandra! I am glad you feel so good. I can only say that for some time I feel better than ever before… and still going up! Life is good!
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Glad to hear, Erika 🙂
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Glad to tell 😀
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🙂
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Hi Sandra! I’m good thank you for asking! It’s been a good morning so far, the kids are playing nicely, no arguments, and all is well. I slept badly, so my back hurts, but that’s nothing in the long run, I’ll just rest up a bit today!!! Been happy he last few days, it’s peaceful here in our household, and long may it continue! 😊
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That’s great 🙂 I hope the kids continue to play nicely so you can rest your back 😘
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Fingers crossed Sandra! Thank you!!! 😊
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When people ask “How are you?” I don’t even think about the answer. I make a quick reply of “Yes good thanks, you?” I never feel people want to hear the answer to that question. It is a question we are taught to ask to sound polite. I would also not tell a person if I was feeling sad, as I wouldn’t want to upset/worry them with my problems. I completely agree with you – it would be easier to share with a neighbour online than a friend. Howevevr, I am one of these people who never claims to be sad, even if I was. I do try and think positive and keep upbeat, but as you point out, this is a little bit like a fake personality. For some reason I feel it is offending to be upset, because it makes other people concerned about you, and you don’t want that responsibility. Your blog however, as inspired me a little bit. Why should I be upbeat all the time?! I should be allowed to admit when I am sad.
However, right now in life I am extremely happy! I am moving in with my boyfriend next month and starting my teacher training, so an exciting year ahead for me! Has anyone asked you how you are? How has your week been?
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Thanks for your comment :-)! You have so many good points there. I agree with you that we often only ask that question to be polite. And give a polite answer to it… I’m glad to hear that everything is good for you. Some very exciting things happening in your life. And thanks so much for asking me how I am. I’m fine, still struggling with a cold and inflamed ribs caused by the cough that has been bothering me for 6 weeks now. And it has an impact on my mindset. But then I remind myself that there are other people who struggle with far worse. Thanks so much for asking.
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That sounds painful. I hope you are getting plenty of rest on the beach watching those waves?! They are other people who struggle but like you said, we are allowed to have pain in our lives also =) I hope you are feeling better soon. Look forward to reading your next blog.
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Thank you so so much.
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Hi! I am well, thanks 😀 You’ve caught me on a day off from my job, so I’m looking forward to spending some quality time on the sofa with my craft supplies! I’ve also enjoyed taking a minute to read down through all the responses you got to your post… You really got everyone talking! Hope you’re having a good day yourself 😃
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Thanks! I hope you get to enjoy your crafts too 🙂
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Always 😁
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Thank you… 🙂
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Hope you feel good today 🙂
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It is currently 7:40 a.m., local time. I’m a little tired, but awake as well (been up since 5). And that’s how it works during the school year. Today is the second day of school and I’m still not sure how I feel about that. Part of me is excited that the kids are back and I actually have something to do with my days. Part of me misses being able to sleep an extra couple of hours in the morning while having the option of being lazy on most days of the week. Last night I spent several hours with some friends and I had a fantastic time. So, overall, I’d say I’m feeling pretty good. 🙂
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Glad to hear 🙂 enjoy having all those wild kids around. And teach them as well as you can.
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Hii 😀 I’m curious as to how those cookies turned out to be. I took a huge step and got a little tattoo of a semicolon on my inner wrist to remind myself that negative phases are just pauses in life. 🙂 I feel pretty good even though my mother is convinced I’m going to get infected with AIDS!
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Hahaha… I thought it’s Hepatitis??? Kidding. Good on you for doing this! The cookies are delicious. He makes them on a regular base Nd always tweaks the recipe slightly. They get better and better. Glad you feel good 🙂
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It’s MY mom! She’ll link climate changes to my tattoo. 😛
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Hehehehehehehe 😂😂😂😂 Well at least I know now who to blame 😜
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Hi then!
If you really really want to know, and after what I read I believe you do! It’s one am my time now, I’m listening to soft music and trying to keep up with the Blogging101 assignments. Feeling a bit overwhelmed because I want to read every single blog that interests me , and people write so well , that this is becoming like those books that you just can’t put down . And what I should really be doing was to learn to move around my dashboard 😦 , or go to sleep 🙂
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There’s a lot of good posts out there. You will miss out on some. Don’t put too much pressure on you. I understand though that you want to read as many as possible. And you will get the hang of how to move around the dashboard. It’s a bit a learning by doing thing. Make sure you get enough sleep 🙂
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Hi Momma, I’m also in the Blogging 101 class, and feeling somewhat overwhelmed. I missed checking assignments yesterday and have spent the last couple of hours catching up. So many blogs, so little time!
I’m also grateful that I have the opportunity to explore the blogosphere and see where my interests will serve it. Glad to finally have some of my art up on the Internet so I can share it with friends and the rest of the world!
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Good on you! Don’t feel pressured! This is not like a normal class. It’s to help us navigate on our blogs and to show us the best way to build a network and grow. It’s all about having fun. Don’t forget that! Have fun with it. Don’t let it get to you. I hope other than that you feel good. Read you later 🙂
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Other than that, I am doing well, Momma.
I am enjoying myself as I work on the assignments, and learning a lot. Getting so involved I don’t want to stop!
Read you soon. : )
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It’s midnight here. That’s all I guess.
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Okay. Hope you’ll have a good night then 🙂
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It’s 3:15 am now!
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Do you sleep at all?
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Not very often.
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Well, I could fill in various times and activities since I know I’ve looked at this more than once! Right now, it’s nearly noon. The sun is shining and outside it’s unseasonably pleasant, though I only have this reported second hand from Spouse who is in his garage trying to psych himself up to tackle mowing the lawn. Now, as most mornings into early afternoons, I am still in my jammies, alternating between free cell, email and fb as well as between three different pieces of reading material (2 books and a 6 week old Sports Illustrated.) I am nearly always content in my retirement and appreciative of how lucky I am to have this life.
Appreciate your efforts to get everybody contributing. Hope to do more than just respond to your thought-provoking prompts, like post something original myself, someday soon.
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Good to hear 🙂
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Looking forward to reading you 🙂
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