Blast From The Past – The Confusing World Of Being In Love

There’s nothing more confusing than love. The feelings you have when you are in love. The butterflies in your tummy, the heartache, the longing, the excitement. Feelings we are familiar with but are still so very hard to describe. Early this year I was invited to write a guest post for Nonsense & Shenanigans about love. As I just recently had a conversation with my kids about how it feels like being in love I decided to post it again today as a blast from the past.

IMG_6371It’s been a while since I felt that feeling of “falling” in love. How about you? Can you remember how it felt? I do! And I still think it is one of the most amazing feelings ever!

The butterflies in your tummy, the excitement, the fear of rejection, legs being weak, saying stupid stuff, just because your brain sort of doesn’t work. The anticipation… The first kiss! Oh how sweet does a first kiss feel! How good is it, how exciting. This tingling feeling, again those butterflies…

You will never get the feeling of the first kiss back in a relationship and for me this is actually the most important part of taking it a bit further. Honestly: If the first kiss is rubbish, you don’t really want to go further, or do you?

So say, you settle with that guy, the first kiss was great and everything else coming after too, you still never get the feeling of this first kiss back. The butterflies might still be there, the anticipation, the fear of a break up, the week legs, all those things might go on for a while.

Until you hit the “after honeymoon phase”. And this is when it really counts. What will you make of your day to day life? What do you make of the normal and maybe not so crazy tingling feeling for your other half? Is the connection strong enough, the love deep enough to keep going?

Or was it all just a big show? Kind of like a firework, nice to watch as long as it lasted but then it was all over with a bang, because all those sparkly lights were no longer there…

How do you know, that this person is worth giving up a next chance for a first kiss? What if there is someone better out there? What if the grass on the other side seems much greener? More interesting… What if the person you have here, in front of you, does not seem so interesting anymore, what if you are bored of this person. Even worse: No longer attracted!

Is it really greener? Maybe you just forgot to water your garden… (ooohhhh… deep, right…). Honestly! I know this sounds so “old” but in the end we all know. We do! And if you feel that the person you are with is not worth looking after and giving up that chance for another first kiss, then that person might just not be the right one.

But: How much do we trick ourselves as well? Because we always want more, because what we have is never enough. It is our society as well…

How confusing is love really? I think it is very confusing! But so sweet. We give so much of ourselves and if we decide to settle down with someone, this person better is the right one. Too much heartache involved otherwise. Too much pain, too much work and too many other options!

I wonder how my kids will handle it… How will they experience it? Their first crush, the first rejection, the first breakup… Everything we have been through… Who will they find? Will they share their feelings with me? Will I know, what they felt, when they had their first kiss? How will I feel about it? Will I be happy? Excited for them? Or will I worry that they get hurt, that they might crash? Kind of like having a first kiss all over again, isn’t it 😉

Hand heart shape silhouette made against the sun & sky of a sunrI, for my part, am where I want to be and with the one I want to be with. Yes, our kisses are no longer first kisses. Our butterflies are no longer flying around our tummies like maniacs. It changed. It got calmer, more settled and with this secure and safe feeling to it.

Love is confusing! All you run after is this butterfly and first kiss feeling, when all you actually want is feeling secure, safe and as if you have arrived and you never want to leave again…

Now if you have a beautiful love story to tell, feel free to email it to me (amommasview@gmail.com) so I can add it to my feature ‘Couples’.

11 thoughts on “Blast From The Past – The Confusing World Of Being In Love

  1. Hannah and I were only married three years, and together for just under six, but we didn’t lose that butterfly feeling at all. I couldn’t imagine I ever would have gotten bored with her.

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  2. I still get butterflies if I have been away for awhile visiting my sister and see home and him for the first time coming back…never gets old being in love……one of the best feelings I have even had..

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  3. After ALL we’ve been through in 21 yrs and 17 of marriage, I’m still a hopeFULL romantic! And the Suga is still good lol

    Glad you shared this again💘e

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  4. “I wonder how my kids will handle it… How will they experience it? Their first crush, the first rejection, the first breakup… Everything we have been through… Who will they find? Will they share their feelings with me? Will I know, what they felt, when they had their first kiss? How will I feel about it? Will I be happy? Excited for them? Or will I worry that they get hurt, that they might crash? Kind of like having a first kiss all over again, isn’t it”

    Been there, done that. Actually still in the midst of it with my 20 something year old daughters. Looking forward to hearing your experiences of same when your two get there!

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