Get A Real Job!

Have you heard that sentence before? Have you heard someone saying “get a real job”? I’ve heard people say this. To strangers, to their kids, to their family members or to friends. Maybe even to themselves. Get a real job… I always wonder what people mean by that. What is a real job?

Is a real job caring for someone? If that’s the case, then why do some people struggle to see a waitress or a waiter doing a real job?

Is a real job a typical 9 to 5 job? If that’s the case, what about a baker who gets up in the middle of the night, bakes all night and goes to bed when others start their days? That’s for sure a real job…

Is a real job a desk job? If that’s the case, what about a builder? Isn’t he doing a real job too?

Talking about typical 9 to 5 jobs and desk jobs: What about athletes? Why are their careers not considered a real job?

Is a real job a job you get your hands dirty? Is that why athletes are not considered doing a real job? If that’s the case, then what is a teacher doing?

This list could go on and on. I truly wonder what a real job is supposed to be. I also wonder why someone would say something like this, although I heard it before as well and I for sure know what that person had in mind for me back then. For that person it would have been better if I would have chosen a typical 9 to 5 job. One that pays well of course. But I chose differently. I chose to work freelance and in a job with irregular times. Sometimes I was working for 4 weeks in a row with 14 to 16 hour work days. I got paid by the hour which ended up being great. Then I had stretches of no work until the next block of work. The job was always full on, high energy, surrounded by lots of people. And you know what? I loved it! I built my little world based on those freelance jobs. What first turned out to only work from spring through to fall ended up becoming a full year thingy.

Looking back I still feel I had it all then. At least in my books. I did what I loved to do. I worked in different places and different countries. I met super interesting people and I earned good money. On top of that I had heaps of time off between those blocks of work which was great as well.

In the eyes of some people it just wasn’t a real job.

Weird, right?

And yet it’s so typical for our society. Everything that is slightly out of the norm needs to be put right. The norm is that a real job needs to be something what everyone considers normal. You need to work hard and suffer through…

And yet when you start breaking all those jobs down you will see that nothing is really normal. And still all of it is necessary. The hours a chef works are totally different from the hours a real estate agent works, or a baker, or a builder, or in retail. And then you have the so called odd jobs. Like building your career as life coach or selling Tupperware (or any other party selling thingy).

Get a real job…

See, I believe if you like what you do, you put all you can offer into it. It really doesn’t matter what you do as long as you like it. And if you like it and put everything into it then you will be successful. You will be able to make it work and you will have a career. You will be able to tick all the boxes that are important to you. Not everyone has the same visions and so what seems important to you might not be important to someone else, no matter how close this person is to you. I just find it important to realize that and let people choose what they think is right for them. Without judging, without criticizing and without trying to change them.

So what is real job? A real job is what brings food on your table, what pays your rent. It’s what makes our society work. I agree. But just because you choose to do something slightly out of the ordinary or because you do a job that some people don’t see as a great job, it doesn’t mean it’s not a real job.

Because there’s also passion!

A real job is what feels real to you. It’s what makes you give the very best because you like what you do.


59 thoughts on “Get A Real Job!

  1. The amount of rage I have for those who persuaded me to play it safe as long as I did can not be overstated. However, I have forgiven most of them because that is what society taught them.

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    • It’s hard to think outside the lines for some people. It’s also not easy to break out of it, but it gets incredibly rewarding once you do and realize that you finally do what you truly want.

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  2. When people ask me what my job is, I have to answer, using common sense and stating the obvious. My grandparents, or even parents, really don’t understand what I do. Lucky the people who pay me DO, and I love my job. It’s not regular or steady, but it’s what I do best. I hope my daughter has at least three careers so she can explore properly. She has dancer, astronomer & human rights lawyer so far.

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  3. Starting the second half of my life, I’ve had some time to be really quiet, and what has been bubbling up in me is passion for my bees, and coming up with ideas for a food truck that sells meals with honey in the recipe. It’s energized me beyond belief. After being unhappy in the financial services industry for 25 years, maybe it’s time to do what makes me happy.

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  4. Such a pervasive line in society, that often means you should be miserable or it’s not work. It’s a wonder it’s been perpetuated this long. I enjoyed your thoughts on it.

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  5. Well said!
    It’s the same with some who say “get a real life”. What’s “real” for one may seem unreal to others. So, let’s live our lives fully and authentically, which will make everything real.

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  6. Absolutely agree….who told who what a real job is supposed to be. I have always had issues with the so called 9-5 jobs where everyone is in a suit and tie and stilettos and dolled up faces, if you don’t look like that, then you are not official… It’s getting on my last nerves.

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  7. Welcome to my world. I spoke with my mom yesterday and started advicing me again to get a real job. It saddens me that she can’t sit back and say,”now, tell me what you really are doing and maybe I will understand”. The thing is that no one understands what the other person is doing unless we are the one doing it. Even when you want to be go with your passion and build a career out of it, it is a tough call.

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  9. I complete agree! I have a job often seen as something that’s not real just because I give language lessons. Well it’s great when caring for a young child, and I love doing it too.

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  10. Before I left school the family asked me what I wanted to do. “I want to be a writer,” I replied. “Don’t be stupid you need to get a ‘proper job – now do you want to be a secretary, a nurse or a teacher?” It took another 20 years until I was writing for a living and a further 30 till I began to write books. Time wasted? Maybe, but I sure have a lot of experience now and wrote two whole books about realizing my dream.

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    • There you go. Crazy, right… get a proper job… now maybe you wouldn’t have been ready back then if you became a writer instantly. Wasted time? Probably not. As you said you gained experience. All for a reason…

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  11. The main thing is to think that what you do really matters and get satisfaction from it. Being an aspiring writer I would be most inclined to say that it’s the money that I am in for although there is admittedly tat element. It is the satisfaction of being published that drives me.

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