Blast From The Past – Rewriting Your Past

I could just say that I was too busy to write a post for tonight. Or I could say that I suffer from writers block. But to be honest: I went to the beach again with my friend and all our kids. It was great. I was surprised that the beach was actually not busy at all. A beautiful day, school holidays started and so close to Christmas. I was expecting more people. But hey, I’m not complaining. So we had a great day but by the time I got home I really got busy and now realized how late it already it.

Usually my post would be up by now. For an hour already. Or so. So I figured, rather than trying to push something out, I check what I wrote about exactly a year ago and post it again as a blast from the past. And I found this post about rewriting your past. I thought it was kind of matching. It’s the time to reflect. So it’s not far fetched to think about how you would react if you’d had the chance to rewrite your past. Of course I do wonder what your thoughts about it are.

 

What if you had the power to rewrite history?

Would you? What part would you rewrite? Would you rewrite the worlds history or would you rewrite a part of your history?

I stumbled across this task for the Daily Post Writing Challenge a couple of days ago and was thinking about it ever since. Honestly, I am still not sure what I would do. There are so many moments in my life that could have gone easier or maybe even better, but then… if I would rewrite it, what effect would it have on everything that came afterwards?

As probably everyone else I would not want to rewrite a good part of my life. Why would you? But what about the nasty bits, the struggles, the downs? How great would it be if you could change them, in hindsight or maybe even while you are stuck in one of those hard to manage moments…

Tempting, isn’t it…

How easy would it be if you could take this word back or the sentence or just everything you said to a person that then lead to the unbearable not talking to each other anymore. Change what you said into something nice and you would go back to where you were before…

How easy would it be if you could never have that one drink that then lead to more and more and eventually to an addiction…

How easy would it be if we could rewrite situations to make things undone or done better or if we could prevent accidents, maybe even deaths…

But thankfully we can’t…

Thankfully because I think it would have such a massive impact on our lives. Nothing would be the same again. I have written about this before. I often wonder what would be if. I wonder if our life would be different if we would have chosen another path, or if we would still be exactly where we are just now.

Now, if we are here and we do change something in our past by rewriting this little bit of history, what impact would it have on us? I am not so sure that it would be good…

As a little example: If I would rewrite a short bit of my husbands and my relationships, a short moment where we struggled as a team, something that I kind of wish would not have happened, I might clean up our history by rewriting it. But what would be the aftermath of it?

That moment of struggling lead us to bonding more and to really become a unit. It made us both really grow up and melt into a strong unit. It was necessary for us… it was necessary for me to grow up, for me to see who I really am.

Now if I rewrite it, I would probably not grow into the person I am today. And that would definitely change a lot.

Of course, you might say, you can then work on rewriting again. And that is the point. If you are happy with where you are now and with who you are now, no rewriting is necessary. No matter how annoying the situation was back in your past. It was necessary to get you to the point you are now…

I guess it is easy to say, if you are in a happy place. And still I think that all the obstacles in our life are meant to teach us something. To take us further, to shape us into the person we are meant to be.

Embrace them, deal with them and use them to move on. Even if you are not at peace with them now. Maybe instead of wanting to rewrite it, you should use them as tools to build on your future. Make them a part of something great.

In response to Daily Post Writing Challenge – Hindsight 20 -20

19 thoughts on “Blast From The Past – Rewriting Your Past

  1. This is such a great post and what a wonderful way to get over a ” writer’s block”.
    I agree with you that though we think often that ” I wish that hadn’t happened to me” or ” I wish I hadn’t behaved this way”, I am sure I would have done exactly the same today, if I were put in the same situation.
    Perhaps I wouldn’t have got married, if I knew what marriage would entail. But how would I know what marriage was like until I went through it- so it is like a chain of events- you learn as you go. If this did not occur, this would not have followed but if this didn’t follow , how would you know what you know now ? ( Confusing isn’t it ?). So maybe it is better to leave things as they are and accept that all things happened for the best.
    Susie

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  2. I have thought about “doing things over & what would I change” type of scenarios. At the end of the day, if I changed anything then the possibility exists that I wouldn’t have my kids – which is absolutely unacceptable.

    So while it is tempting, life has brought me here for a reason.

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  3. Couldn’t agree with you more. Everything that we go through is valuable. Lessons are learned, bonds are strengthened and renewed, perspectives change…we change. For that reason, I wouldn’t change one single thing.

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  4. I agree that it is tempting but I wouldn’t want to change a thing either. Everything I have been through has brought me to where I am and I’m happy here. I am happy about the rest of the journey, where ever it is going and whatever I will learn from it.

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  5. My goal is to change my present so that I will like my future better. Does that make sense?
    This approach is based on my current view of looking back and unconsciously making an effort to do something differently now than I would have done or actually did then. For me, that’s doing something out of my comfortable and expected box.

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  7. There are some things that I would definitely go back and change…because going through them did absolutely nothing for me but cause pain and self-destruction, and those situations were utterly unnecessary as it was… As someone who was bullied constantly as a youth, I can think of many things other people did that I want to be able to go back and alter what happened next…because people need to learn from these things, and not let them just keep happening over and over.

    As far as my personal choices go, some things I wouldn’t want to change (such as deaths or medical issues), because I know the domino effect that would be created by altering such a large event – one that didn’t just affect me, but many others…and it’s not my decision to choose their time to die, or how they live their lives after a medical diagnosis or a similar stunning event. Those are the circumstances that I think do help us grow and make us into the people we become.

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  8. Life is a journey oh so ideal leave the past behind. Would rewrite the past change or start over these are hard questions to answer. When situation present it self if I am able to deal with it then it’s fine if not learn from the mistakes and move on …life lessons… looking back want to change or rewrite. No! The past is my history can’t possible rewrite because Of now being in a happy place. Sounds ideal in the real world. Safe and secure life a journey ideal it’s just a metaphor for me Great Blog post found your article on Harsh ReaLity Sunday Share.

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