What seems to be 100% for some might not seem that way for others. It’s a lesson I’ve learned over the years. Something I stated in a comment to Sobadass.me on one of her posts. Great blog, by the way, you should check it out!
You might wonder where I’m going with this, so let me tell you.
In her post Sam mentions that she always gives 100% but sometimes feels like she does not receive it from others. Well, in short. You need to read the entire post. Right away I could totally relate to what she said. At the same time everything inside of me screamed “but”!
So here is my “but”: Sometimes it’s simply different than what you think it is.
As simple as that.
What seems to be 100% for us might not be the same for others. What seems less than 100% might seem to be the full load for others. It’s something I found out thanks to a friend of mine.
I always felt like I was giving her 100%. I tried to stay in touch, I tried to be there for her, I tried to be a good friend. And she appreciated it. But I always thought I would not get the same back. I felt she was not trying to stay in touch as much as I did. I felt like I did not receive the support I was giving her. I felt like for her our friendship was not as important than it was for me.
I was wrong.
She was the one who was always there for me. Through think and thin. Through all the ups and downs. She always gave and still gives 100%. Just in her way. And I learned what her way is.
Learning and accepting that we all have our own and unique way of giving and taking was a big lesson in my life. Probably the biggest lesson in regards to friendship but also for many other areas of my life too. It made me see the value of this friendship in an entirely different light.
It’s important that we try to see the situation form the other person’s perspective before we just simply guess. We are all very different. Not only in the way we look.