There are things going on in my life that make me think a lot about the meaning of life, the way we treat people, respect, values, what appreciation really is all about and Karma.
We all know that there are people out there who seem to have everything. We also know that there are people out there who don’t have much. We know that there are people out there who are not happy although they have everything. And then there are people out there who have nothing but are truly happy.
It’s not about the grass in your yard. It’s not about how green it is. It’s not about getting what your neighbor has. It’s about making the most of what you have. I think a lot about appreciation lately. About appreciating what you have in your life without resentment, without jealousy, without greed. I’m stunned about some people who can just not live a happy life because they waste their time with resentment, with greed, with agendas that don’t help anyone, not even them in the long run. And yet they think what they do is right.
I wonder: Who decides what shade of green grass actually has to be in order to be perfect? Or better: Why do we listen constantly to people telling us which grass is the nicest? Why do we get ourselves into running after the same shade of green everyone else is after? Why don’t we just appreciate our patch of grass and look after it as well as we can?
Forgive me for being all over the place. Maybe my Blast From The Past will make more sense. I leave you with it while I keep pondering about people…
Frankly, I’m a bit over all those people saying that the grass seems greener on the other side. You know what I mean. The constant complaining about what they would like to have and don’t have. The pointing out what others have they would like to have but fear would never get.
I’m over it for a couple of reasons.
First of all jealousy.
Why is it so hard to be happy for others? It seems like people just can’t stand it if others are happy or have something they don’t have. Jealousy is a bitch, you know. And even if some won’t admit that they are jealous, their remarks make it so obvious. The gossiping, the bitching, the pointing out that “they can only afford it because of this and that”. I wonder why certain people can’t look at others and say: “Look at that great house! It’s stunning. They deserve it because they worked really hard for it.” Or maybe “They deserve it because they keep their financials under control.” There would be many positive reasons to mention. And if jealousy wouldn’t be an issue I’m sure those reasons would be easy to find.
Looks are deceiving.
The grass on the other side might look greener. But is it really as green as it seems? Maybe it got spray painted, you know? And underneath the paint it’s actually dying off. Have ever thought about that? A lot of things are not the way they seem. So many people are good actors and manage to put on a show for everyone else. But behind the scene life looks different. They struggle. Maybe more than we do. The show though must go on. So everything gets polished and looks shiny and perfect. In reality it’s far from perfect and healthy and happy.
Do you really want to give up what you have only to get what you see? Is what you have really not good enough?
The next reason I’m over it is because you give up on yourself.
If you think that the grass is greener on the other side and your grass will never be as green as the one on the other side than you’ve already lost. You will never try again. You give up. Instead of seeing it as a motivation and give everything to actually make your grass as juicy and green as the one on the other side, you only see the negative side of it. Something I really don’t want to do and a lesson I’d like to teach my children. It does not matter how green the grass on the other side is. As long as you look after your garden and do your very best to make it look good, you can be proud of yourself.
Don’t envy what you don’t have, it might not be worth it. Look at what you got. Appreciate it. Be happy about it. And then start building on it. It will be the best foundation you could ever wish for. Take care when you put piece by piece together. Make sure it’s done in the best way ever. And then, in the end, you will have something you will forever be proud of. This is when your garden will be juicy and green.