Why are we not good enough for ourselves to stick to our original self? Whenever I observe people I realize that in most cases they all try so hard to be something else, someone else, than they originally are. Why? What makes us feel so insecure that we cannot stand up for who we truly are and make the world see it?
The funny thing is that we tend to chase after this originality in all other aspects of life. We want original paintings, we want original ideas and so on. When it comes down to our personality we tend to try hard to simply fit in. Original seems not to be desirable.
Back in the town I grew up we certain people originals. They were the ones that were well liked but often considered a little bit behind. Kind of like the original mobile phone, you know. It was once very cool but, hey, we moved on and what we get now is so much better than that original one… In relation to a person it’s a bit tough, so I find.
I remember looking at those people, the people that were labeled originals and wondering why it would be a bad thing. Yes, in a way they did not move with the time. Well, they did but they didn’t let all the “in” stuff make slaves of them. They lived their life according to what they considered right. They stuck to what they felt was right and who they felt they truly are. Back then it was strange in some cases. Because when you are young you don’t want to be like them. You want to be hip, you want to be the one who understands everything and who goes with what’s in . You want to be cool, hip, in, desirable. And in doing so you create a different kind of you. A kind of you that ticks the boxes off of the list of things you think are in, hip, cool, progressive.
There is nothing wrong with being progressive. Not at all. I think it is fantastic to be cool and hip and progressive. But we should not forget who we are in the process. And we should most definitely not change our original self just so we fit in.
Being original is a good thing. It makes us special. It makes us unique. It makes us stand out from the many “clones” surrounding us… It’s what makes us us.