Isn’t it crazy how much influence the opinion of others has in regards to the way we see our body, the way we feel in our skin?
If you have followed me for a while you know that I post about my healthy eating and workout plans on occasion. I had made big plans for the end of this year but my body and my mind did not play along the way I had thought they would. I’m still on it and I will not drop my goals or let the fact that I have not reached my ideal weight discourage me. As with many things I’ll simply keep moving forward.
I read a fantastic post today about the way we see our body and the way the opinion of others can get to us. In a way I could have written it and I think many of you out there too. I bet when you read it you will relate to it as much as I have.
It’s true, for some we will always be not right. We will be too tall, too short, too skinny, too fat, too pretty, too ugly, too fast, too slow, too smart, too dumb…
Reading it reminded me of my own insecurities and struggles. It reminded me of going on diets before visiting my mother just so she couldn’t tell me yet again how much weight I’ve gained and to make sure I keep my weight I under control. And you know what? I ever heard her say “you lost weight” or “you look good” over the past years. I always “looked tired”, “exhausted”. It was always mentioned that I’ve gained weight, even if I’d shredded kilos.
My body was not good enough for her. I always wondered why. My body is my body.
The post reminded me that it’s not about them. It’s about us. If we are comfortable in our body we can decide to stay the way we are. If we have a healthy weight but are not toned and are happy with it, it’s okay. If we are skinny and feel good about it, it’s okay too. We matter. Not their way of seeing us.
What it all boils down to is, that we are healthy. We can’t be healthy though, if we always feel we are not good enough.
The journey from couch potato to Super Woman is a long one and we can do it if we believe in ourselves. So leave those voices where they belong: On the outside! Focus on what’s important and that is you, your feelings and the way you want to be.
And then, when you have decided on which way is the right one for you to go, tackle it! One step at a time. Not for them. For you!