I’m on the train again, on my way back from work. Next to me are two moms and their lovely kids. I watch ho one of the girls walks over and kisses her mom on the mouth. While something like this warms my heart it seems to annoy others. The lady next to me starts wiggling around and seems totally uncomfortable. The girls kisses the mom again and the lady next to me can’t hold it back anymore and starts telling the mom of. I hear the words gross, inappropriate and crossing a line that should not be crossed.
I honestly feel sorry for the mom. And the child. And their friends. I can’t help myself. I look at the woman in disbelief, shake my head, get up and move over to the seats behind the mom. Her daughter looks at me, unsure about what she’s done wrong. I smile at her and say “keep kissing your mom. It’s the most beautiful gift you can give her and believe me, it makes her very happy”.
I can’t believe how people think they need to tell others off for something that is simply none of their business. Especially if it’s something so innocent a d harmless. It reminded me of a post I wrote a while ago which I’d like to share as a Blast From The Past.
Let’s just say it right here, right now: I kiss my kids on their lips. Still do and will continue for as long as they feel comfortable with it. And I think there is nothing wrong with this! One of the kisses I will forever remember will be one of the last kisses I got from my Dad before he passed away. It was a kiss on the lips.
I don’t understand the issue some people have with the picture posted on Instagram by Victoria Beckham, kissing her daughter on the lips. Did we really get to the point where showing affection for our kids is labeled gross?
Kissing is part of societies. Some kiss even strangers when they meet. In Switzerland you kiss people you know (and like I guess) three times on the cheeks. In other countries it’s one, two or even four of those kisses. And in some countries it’s a kiss on the mouth or rubbing the nose. Even with strangers.
Now, I would not kiss a stranger on the lips. I would also not kiss a stranger on the cheek. I kiss my friends on the cheek and I still do three of them which often leads to confusion. And to some giggling. Especially if one of the kisses by mistake ends up on the lips instead of on the cheek… I for sure kiss my family on the lips. My husband and my children. Sometimes the kids kiss each other on the lips. And I have no problem with that.
There is nothing dirty about it. Nothing filthy, nothing bad, nothing that needs to be stopped. When I read the comments poor Victoria Beckham had to face I could only shake my head and I truly hope she will be able to see them the way they are: Utter nonsense!
“That is not cool at all… Victoria should think twice before doing that shit. Fucking child molester.”
Since when is kissing your child on the lips child abuse? Why do we call someone who shows love and affection a molester?
“This is child sexual abuse.”
Oh is it? So then changing a diaper is too? After all you touch the private parts if you change a diaper, you know… What about hugging your child? I mean, you touch it too…
“The whole angle of the pic makes it suggestive. Like it was set up for response. I don’t personally don’t kiss my children in mouth but know many that do never seen it look like they were having having a moment. [sic]”
I can’t even properly read this comment… Having a moment… Yes, I do have a moment when I kiss my children on the lips. A beautiful mother and child moment. Not any other kind of moment. So what is wrong with that?
“Looks like your making out… it’s definitely the head tilt. Makes it look like a romantic movie kiss. [sic]”
Why is tilting the head bad? I sometimes tilt my head when I kiss my kids. Just to avoid our noses to be squashed… Seriously people, you are really trying hard to turn something beautiful into something dirty. Maybe it’s not the picture, maybe it’s your fantasy that is the real issue here…
“Whilst quickly flicking through my Instagram feed this morning, I’m ashamed to say, I did at first think this was a lesbian kiss! It was not until I focused properly and realized who had posted the pic, saw who it was. Nothing wrong at all with showing love and affection to your children but maybe not on dangerous social media!”
I agree with not sharing pictures of children on social media but hey, they did for a long time and honestly, I believe if you see a lesbian kiss you truly try to find something dirty here without it being there…
“A lot of kids get cold sores from their parents kissing them on the mouth.“
Yeah, sure… And they might even get some rashes from holding hands and hugs. So let’s never touch our kids again…
Have a look at the picture again. For me there’s nothing wrong with it. It’s a picture of a mother kissing her daughter. Unfortunately it’s a famous mother, one that polarizes. People try to find something to make her, like so many celebs, look bad.
Honestly, just that couple of comments makes me wonder how far we’ve come as a society. A society in which it’s obviously wrong to be close with your children. But also a society that obviously is so full of jealousy that we throw dirt whenever we get the chance to do it. How very sad.
I’m not for posting pictures of our children on any social media. But some people do. In regards to celebrities I think they probably rather put pictures of their kids out there themselves so the harsh hunt for any shot from Paparazzi might not get as crazy. In the end it’s us who make them do it, don’t you think so? It’s us, or at least the ones who buy the gossip magazines, providing a market for Paparazzi and people who come up with all the dirt stories shared. It’s us who watch the gossip shows on TV. We want to see how the kids look like, what they do, eat, wear, especially what they all do wrong and where they make mistakes. We want to see them fail.
What I see in this picture in question is a mother kissing her daughter. Nothing more. No child molester, no child abuse, no sexual intent, no making out, no lesbian kiss, no tongue… Just a mother showing her affection for her daughter. A beautiful picture!
For all the ones out there trying to pull it in the dirt: Get a life!
Now please excuse me, I need to go kiss my kids…