Blast From The Past – Kisses On The Mouth

I’m on the train again, on my way back from work. Next to me are two moms and their lovely kids. I watch ho one of the girls walks over and kisses her mom on the mouth. While something like this warms my heart it seems to annoy others. The lady next to me starts wiggling around and seems totally uncomfortable. The girls kisses the mom again and the lady next to me can’t hold it back anymore and starts telling the mom of. I hear the words gross, inappropriate and crossing a line that should not be crossed.

I honestly feel sorry for the mom. And the child. And their friends. I can’t help myself. I look at the woman in disbelief, shake my head, get up and move over to the seats behind the mom. Her daughter looks at me, unsure about what she’s done wrong. I smile at her and say “keep kissing your mom. It’s the most beautiful gift you can give her and believe me, it makes her very happy”.

I can’t believe how people think they need to tell others off for something that is simply none of their business. Especially if it’s something so innocent a d harmless. It reminded me of a post I wrote a while ago which I’d like to share as a Blast From The Past.


Let’s just say it right here, right now: I kiss my kids on their lips. Still do and will continue for as long as they feel comfortable with it. And I think there is nothing wrong with this! One of the kisses I will forever remember will be one of the last kisses I got from my Dad before he passed away. It was a kiss on the lips.

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I don’t understand the issue some people have with the picture posted on Instagram by Victoria Beckham, kissing her daughter on the lips. Did we really get to the point where showing affection for our kids is labeled gross?

Kissing is part of societies. Some kiss even strangers when they meet. In Switzerland you kiss people you know (and like I guess) three times on the cheeks. In other countries it’s one, two or even four of those kisses. And in some countries it’s a kiss on the mouth or rubbing the nose. Even with strangers.

Now, I would not kiss a stranger on the lips. I would also not kiss a stranger on the cheek. I kiss my friends on the cheek and I still do three of them which often leads to confusion. And to some giggling. Especially if one of the kisses by mistake ends up on the lips instead of on the cheek… I for sure kiss my family on the lips. My husband and my children. Sometimes the kids kiss each other on the lips. And I have no problem with that.

There is nothing dirty about it. Nothing filthy, nothing bad, nothing that needs to be stopped. When I read the comments poor Victoria Beckham had to face I could only shake my head and I truly hope she will be able to see them the way they are: Utter nonsense!

“That is not cool at all… Victoria should think twice before doing that shit. Fucking child molester.”

Since when is kissing your child on the lips child abuse? Why do we call someone who shows love and affection a molester?

“This is child sexual abuse.”

Oh is it? So then changing a diaper is too? After all you touch the private parts if you change a diaper, you know… What about hugging your child? I mean, you touch it too…

“The whole angle of the pic makes it suggestive. Like it was set up for response. I don’t personally don’t kiss my children in mouth but know many that do never seen it look like they were having having a moment. [sic]”

I can’t even properly read this comment… Having a moment… Yes, I do have a moment when I kiss my children on the lips. A beautiful mother and child moment. Not any other kind of moment. So what is wrong with that?

“Looks like your making out… it’s definitely the head tilt. Makes it look like a romantic movie kiss. [sic]”

Why is tilting the head bad? I sometimes tilt my head when I kiss my kids. Just to avoid our noses to be squashed… Seriously people, you are really trying hard to turn something beautiful into something dirty. Maybe it’s not the picture, maybe it’s your fantasy that is the real issue here…

“Whilst quickly flicking through my Instagram feed this morning, I’m ashamed to say, I did at first think this was a lesbian kiss! It was not until I focused properly and realized who had posted the pic, saw who it was. Nothing wrong at all with showing love and affection to your children but maybe not on dangerous social media!”

I agree with not sharing pictures of children on social media but hey, they did for a long time and honestly, I believe if you see a lesbian kiss you truly try to find something dirty here without it being there…

“A lot of kids get cold sores from their parents kissing them on the mouth.“

Yeah, sure… And they might even get some rashes from holding hands and hugs. So let’s never touch our kids again…

Have a look at the picture again. For me there’s nothing wrong with it. It’s a picture of a mother kissing her daughter. Unfortunately it’s a famous mother, one that polarizes. People try to find something to make her, like so many celebs, look bad.

Honestly, just that couple of comments makes me wonder how far we’ve come as a society. A society in which it’s obviously wrong to be close with your children. But also a society that obviously is so full of jealousy that we throw dirt whenever we get the chance to do it. How very sad.

I’m not for posting pictures of our children on any social media. But some people do. In regards to celebrities I think they probably rather put pictures of their kids out there themselves so the harsh hunt for any shot from Paparazzi might not get as crazy. In the end it’s us who make them do it, don’t you think so? It’s us, or at least the ones who buy the gossip magazines, providing a market for Paparazzi and people who come up with all the dirt stories shared. It’s us who watch the gossip shows on TV. We want to see how the kids look like, what they do, eat, wear, especially what they all do wrong and where they make mistakes. We want to see them fail.

What I see in this picture in question is a mother kissing her daughter. Nothing more. No child molester, no child abuse, no sexual intent, no making out, no lesbian kiss, no tongue… Just a mother showing her affection for her daughter. A beautiful picture!
For all the ones out there trying to pull it in the dirt: Get a life!
Now please excuse me, I need to go kiss my kids…

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37 thoughts on “Blast From The Past – Kisses On The Mouth

  1. I’m with you I this. The reason for this is that adults tend to over think and over sexualise actions. But i don’t know why a stranger thinks they can criticise a mom for anything. It’s none of their business.

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  2. I remember this post Sandra. And I’m with you too. I’m a really affectionate person and my kids have inherited that. Quite frankly, it’s no one else’s business. Great post.

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  3. I’m also with you! And now I have grandsons, ages 3 and 1. If our lips touch as they learn affection, I’m one very happy grandma! Both my daughter and son in law smother their sons in affectionate kisses! But I’m sure it won’t last so they’re getting them now!

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  4. I remember this post well! Of course, I kissed my kids on the mouth but this stopped naturally when they got older. But I still don’t think it is something inappropriate. As long as both are comfortable why not?

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  5. I think what we are seeing is a classic byproduct of social media today. People easily criticize, over-sexualize and troll everyone that doesn’t 100% conform to what their perceived “norms” are. Sad state of affairs where people pay more attention to what others do and not enough to what they do and how they act.

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  6. I agree with you 100%. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with kissing your loved ones on the lips. It’s a sign of affection for the ones you love. My daughter is only 10 weeks old, but I’ve already started kissing her on the mouth to show her affection and if one day she chooses to not let me do so, I will respect that as well.

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  7. Grrrrrr….some people. And you are right, they need to get a life. And it’s amazing that you moved over to tell the kids to keep kissing their mom. If i was the mom in question, think I would hug you there and then. 😊

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  8. I would like to believe that a part of it is strictly cultural. We do not kiss children on the lips in India – cheeks, nose, forehead, head, ears, hands, fingers – blowing raspberries on tummy. Yup! We do all of that. But I don’t recollect seeing it ANYWHERE in India. I admit, when I saw films/TV that is when I realized the different kissing habits around the world and I will admit, it took me time to warm up to it. Was I disgusted? No. You are free to kiss all you want… After all, it is a natural (or human?) expression of love! But I was uncomfortable at the thought of BEING in that situation because I am just not used to it… Hope it makes sense. Maybe a few of those people belong to this category.

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    • And I totally understand that it might not be for everyone. I have a friend who hates massages. She struggles with being touched. But just because she does doesn’t mean she can’t understand that other’s like massages. And I think it’s about the general approach to things like this. If it’s okay for the ones involved then leave it at that.

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  9. I could not agree with you more. I kissed my son on the lips and to be honest I’m not sure of the age when it stopped. I just know he switched to kissing me on the cheek and that was that. I kissed my mom and dad on the lips too. If the child and parent are comfortable than it’s no one else’s business.

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