I consider this one of the most important lessons to teach my children. It’s a big step to get to the point where you don’t care about what other people think of you. It takes a lot to get to the point where you feel confident enough to not let other people’s opinions get to you. Where you simply know that you are good enough. Where you simply know that what you do is the right thing to do. Where you can say “I don’t care what you think”.
It’s one of the biggest hurdles to overcome if you are programmed to actually think everyone else’s opinion matters. To realize that the fact that you worry about what they might think is actually hindering you from be who you truly are.
I’m not talking about bulldozing people over here. This is of course a very different way of not caring for others. It’s about knowing that you are good enough and that your decisions are good enough.
I want my children to know that it is not important what other people think of you. If you live your life the right way and stick to your values you will attract the right people. You will have people in your life that are good for you and you will be good for them. But if you worry about the opinion of others you will not be free. You will not be true to yourself. And automatically you will be surrounded by people who will act like vampires, sucking your energy from you and not caring about you getting weaker. They will use you. I want my children to not get to that point.
I want them to care for the ones that are worth it. I want them to build the ones up that are worth it. I want them to be there for them as much as they are there for my children. I want it to be a natural give and take action. One that is not built on expectations but rather on trust and inspiration.
I want them to know that they will be fine even if people don’t like them. I want them to know that the right people will like them if they like themselves. And you can only like yourself if you are yourself.