You know what, Eric, you just inspired me to write this post. Not because of the post I link to but because of your comment in regards to parenting. Parenting is NOT easy. It’s not easy because there is no manual. It’s not easy because there is mother’s and father’s guilt…
Let’s face it: Every day we make tons of decisions in order to make sure our kids have the best possible bringing up. We choose the food they eat, the cloths they wear, the school they go to, the books they read, the games they play and the rules they have to follow. We decide on the ingredients that goes in the dishes they eat, we buy the laundry detergent we wash their cloths in, we get the shampoo they use. We plan their play dates and birthday parties.
But there is so much more to it. All the things listed seem so easy to juggle. And yet they are not. As I said there is the mother’s guilt, or father’s guilt. The parents guilt. Because we feel guilty. Guilty for being too strict, not strict enough. We feel guilty when we watch them fall and hurt themselves. We feel guilty if they get bullied in school. We feel guilty if they are shy. We feel guilty if they are too bossy. We question our actions. Did we do enough? Did we do the right thing? Were we too strict or not strict enough. Did we make the right decision and are we actually guiding our children in the right direction.
There is so much responsibility and with responsibility comes pressure. And while all we can do is doing our very best the question if we really do our best is hovering over our head all the time. Sometimes more, sometimes less obvious.
Mothers, Fathers, cut yourself some slack! You are doing the best you can and maybe that’s all that needs to be in a parenting manual: “You are doing a great job!”
Keep doing what you’re doing. Because as long as your kids are happy you are doing a great job. There will always be challenges, some bigger some smaller in raising kids. We all deal with them. So it’s not just you. It’s all of us. We are in it together even if it is hard to admit sometimes. We don’t like to admit that we struggle. We don’t like to admit that we don’t have the answer to everything. We don’t like to admit that things can be hard. We don’t like to admit that we have no clue and are simply just winging it.
Parenting is about winging it. Right? Especially with the first born. Because we have no experience in it and as mentioned before there is truly no manual. There is no one fits all. Who said we need to be perfect? Who even defines what a perfect parent is? How can we be perfect if perfect means something different for each and everyone of us? Just be yourself. Be yourself for your kids and for you.
You know what parenting is too? Rewarding. All those smiles, giggles, hugs and kisses. They are why we hang in there. All the happy moments our kids have are why we keep going. Because they are so worth it.
Here is to all of us parents. We are amazing and we are doing a great job. We can be proud of ourselves and of our kids. Now let’s keep it all up, with a smile on our face…