What if you wouldn’t have fear? What would you try? Recently I heard some kids chat about it. Broccoli was mentioned and it made me laugh. Climbing up a steep ladder was also brought up and I could relate. Jumping off the pier was another answer and I nodded. Stand up to the kid that pushed my friend at school today.. an answer that almost made me cry.
Fears come in many forms and shapes. They can seem so little, like eating broccoli. Or so big like standing up to a kid that pushes others. For the person dealing with them they are huge. I listed some of my little fears a while ago and just stumbled across the post. It made me think how fears are ours. How we all have different ones and that belittling people for a fear that seems silly to us is totally not cool…
Yesterday I asked you what you would try if you had no fear. Thank you all for commenting and by the way skydiving, bungee jumping and scuba diving was mentioned the most often. Of course I was thinking about what I would do if I had no fear. And this is what I came up with:
If I had no fear I would climb Mount Everest and stand on top of the mountain enjoying the view. There are so many things here that I am afraid of. I would be afraid of living in the base camp, away from my family. Although I grew up in Switzerland with its sort of cold winters, I would be scared of the cold, of the storms up there. I would be scared of not getting enough oxygen. I would be totally scared of making a wrong step, slipping and falling, falling, falling… But the idea of standing on top of that mountain always gets me. How wonderful must it be to be up there and to have achieved something like this?
If I had no fear I would love to be on a massive stage in front of a huge crowd and experience what it feels like to perform in front of thousands of people. How amazing must it be? But for that I would have to be talented as well and unfortunately even my shower gets an earache when I sing and I don’t play any instrument. Who knows, maybe I figure out a way one day…
If I had no fear I would go swimming with sharks and by that I don’t mean being in a cage but really diving with a group of sharks…
If I had no fear I would gallop a race horse on a race track. I always wanted to know how that feels. I once got to gallop my horse on a race track but it was after a long distance race and she was not as fresh anymore. Still it felt amazing. I wonder how it would be though galloping a trained race horse…
Looking at those fears I realize how little they actually are. There is plenty more I could list here but they all are fears I know I could face if I wanted to. I don’t like spiders but I would be fine to put one on my head or shoulder if I had to. I really don’t like Emus but I would totally feed one if you would challenge me. There are things that kind of take my breath away thinking about it but I know I would be able to do it, if I had to.
I did things in my life of which I said or thought that I would never do them. I once worked for Bobsleigh World Championships and I told my colleague back then that I would never sit in a bob (they offered taxi runs). I ended up doing it twice and it was the most amazing feeling ever. Back then I told him that I would hop in that bob but only on a specific day. I thought I was super smart as I knew that they were totally booked out that day. I did not consider that he would organize an extra bob just for me… Looking back, I am sure glad he did.
See, I have a thing with speed. Speed scares me. So a roller-coaster or a taxi bob run or driving in a race car would be challenging for me.
I also said that I would never do white water rafting but my husband kind of tricked me into it. And it was the most amazing experience. I loved it so much that I decided to try the Hydro Speed and that was even better. I felt like I connected with the water, with the river and I truly understood the idea of floating or swimming in your river of life. I had such a light bulb moment back then. It all made sense. And when things get difficult I make myself go back to this experience and realize again what it is all about.
As I’ve mentioned these fears are all small and manageable. Maybe they are more like challenges. When I was reading through your comments I often thought, why would you not do it? As so many of your comments made me feel like it was more kind of a bucket list thing than a major fear. Something that would be a challenge but you would be able to do if you really wanted to and then feel relieved and proud of yourself for doing it afterwards.
There are other fears, fears that are on a totally different level. Fears you can’t do anything about it, fears that are so deep and intense.
My biggest fear though is losing my family. Or that my kids or my husband might get hurt. And there is nothing I can do about this one. It is deep and intense. But those are things you can not influence either. So you need to go with the flow. Live your life and not focus on something too much, you can’t influence.