I can totally get the anger the author of the post below feels. I think we all can relate. It probably comes from feeling so numb because we all know that we can’t do anything really to prevent another rape.
We just had this shocking case of a 14 year old girl being gang raped only last week. Gang raped by four or five men. Men, not boys. Men, that are 20 to 29 years old.
So many things that shock you when you read about this case. The life of a 14 year old girl will never be normal again. She will always be haunted by what happened to her. Her family will struggle, her friends, her boyfriend who was with her but couldn’t protect her. Many lives affected and in a way destroyed by 4 or even 5 assholes that are not men enough to be able to control their urges.
What’s shocking as well and what makes me angry is that questions were raised about why the girl and the boy were in the park at such a late time. They seriously questioned the girl. As always there were people making comments about the possibility that she might have triggered it. Seriously? As if a 14 year old, any woman, would like to be gang raped by men she does not know. Let me tell you something: The idea a young girl having fantasies about being raped by one or more men are so far from the reality.
I do get the feeling of wanting to hurt a rapist so badly. I totally get it. Cutting off some parts comes to my mind. But slowly. And then throw it away and let him bleed to death. But then do we really want to get down to that level? Maybe, right. When it hits home. When someone in your family is affected. I know that I would have major issues controlling myself if it would be my daughter, my son, who would have been hurt.
I think that we will unfortunately always have to deal with perverts like this. What I hope will change one day is that society tries to find an excuse for the perverts actions and finally see that you can’t just take what you want, when you want it. That finally rape gets labeled for what it is. That finally society is not trying to blame the victim for wearing the wrong things, for acting the wrong way, for saying the wrong things, for using too much makeup, for wearing a provoking lipstick, for being out too late, for moving in a certain way and all the BS that gets listed after a crime like that.
Fact is, that when a man rapes a woman (a woman rapes a man, a man rapes a man, a woman rapes a woman and so on), no consent was given. Someone decided that they want something and they want it now, no matter what the other person wants. And that’s just not okay. Why is it so hard to understand how wrong it is?
Imagine I would want your car. I want it now. And I don’t care if you want to give it to me or not. So I just take it. I take it although you said no to me. You told me that you don’t want me to take it. But I don’t care. I take it and if necessary I use force. I just take it. Is society claiming that you parked the car at the wrong place at the wrong time? Is society saying that you should have chosen another color or another brand? Is society saying that it’s your fault for whatever reason? No! In this case society accepts that something was done wrong and nobody questions it. If I would take your car I would be a thief, no matter what.
That is something that makes me incredibly angry and I just can’t understand why a life, a body has less value than a thing…
I’ve written about my feelings in regards to rape and abuse here as wel, if you’re interested at alll:
Second Chances? WTF!!!
What’s The Issue With Rape?