Same Ol’ Shit

A 16 year old girl drinks to much. She is intoxicated and trusts the guy who leads her to a room. She enters the room where it’s totally dark. He leads her to the bed. Because she is totally drunk her instincts probably don’t kick in.

There are actually 8 men in the room. And a GoPro.

They rape her.

“Turn her around.”

“My turn.”

“Just like a piece of meat.”

And many more things Police will hear while watching the footage.

When Police knock on her door approx a week after because they have discovered the footage on the GoPro after having arrested one of the dickheads while spraying Graffitis she is shocked. She knew something has happened to her but didn’t recall exactly what and therefor didn’t go to the police. Afraid of not being taken serious.

Out of the 8 men 3 get sentenced. Maximum sentence is 13 years, the other two get away with 8 years and even less. Why did the one guy get 13 years? Probably because he was the one spraying the Graffiti… The other 5? Guess they were lucky…

Bottom line: While the girl is scarred for life the criminals who did this get away with basically nothing as they will be out in a couple of months on parole anyway. If you want to commit a crime to be stowed away in a comfortable cell with HD TV and other luxuries just rape someone. Because you’ll be out in now time. Don’t commit fraud. That will give you more time. Don’t get caught damaging stuff because that will give you more time. Don’t use illegal substances because that will give you more time…

Seriously? Wtf is wrong with our system? They filmed it. No doubt. She was unable to give consent. She was raped. She is 16. I sure hope they will experience heaps of what they did to the girl in prison over the short time they’re in there. Shame nobody will film it…

Blast From The Past – Keeping A Promise

While I watched my daughter the other day playing, I loved to see how innocent she still is. It’s something that I admire. There seems to be no real worries, no real fears. I’m glad that she feels that way. Glad that we can make her feel so safe. Without wanting to try to go crazy I also realize how big the chances are that things can change drastically. Without fault of any of us. Of course that’s the moment my smile sort of goes away and my thoughts take a slight other turn. Suddenly all those numbers pop in my mind, the promises I made to her to keep her safe, the realization that other parents most likely have made the same promises but were unable to keep them.

This is a Blast From The Past about keeping a promise.

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Rape… 2 Pictures – A Reblog

I can totally get the anger the author of the post below feels. I think we all can relate. It probably comes from feeling so numb because we all know that we can’t do anything really to prevent another rape.

We just had this shocking case of a 14 year old girl being gang raped only last week. Gang raped by four or five men. Men, not boys. Men, that are 20 to 29 years old.

So many things that shock you when you read about this case. The life of a 14 year old girl will never be normal again. She will always be haunted by what happened to her. Her family will struggle, her friends, her boyfriend who was with her but couldn’t protect her. Many lives affected and in a way destroyed by 4 or even 5 assholes that are not men enough to be able to control their urges.

What’s shocking as well and what makes me angry is that questions were raised about why the girl and the boy were in the park at such a late time. They seriously questioned the girl. As always there were people making comments about the possibility that she might have triggered it. Seriously? As if a 14 year old, any woman, would like to be gang raped by men she does not know. Let me tell you something: The idea a young girl having fantasies about being raped by one or more men are so far from the reality.

I do get the feeling of wanting to hurt a rapist so badly. I totally get it. Cutting off some parts comes to my mind. But slowly. And then throw it away and let him bleed to death. But then do we really want to get down to that level? Maybe, right. When it hits home. When someone in your family is affected. I know that I would have major issues controlling myself if it would be my daughter, my son, who would have been hurt.

I think that we will unfortunately always have to deal with perverts like this. What I hope will change one day is that society tries to find an excuse for the perverts actions and finally see that you can’t just take what you want, when you want it. That finally rape gets labeled for what it is. That finally society is not trying to blame the victim for wearing the wrong things, for acting the wrong way, for saying the wrong things, for using too much makeup, for wearing a provoking lipstick, for being out too late, for moving in a certain way and all the BS that gets listed after a crime like that.

Fact is, that when a man rapes a woman (a woman rapes a man, a man rapes a man, a woman rapes a woman and so on), no consent was given. Someone decided that they want something and they want it now, no matter what the other person wants. And that’s just not okay. Why is it so hard to understand how wrong it is?

Imagine I would want your car. I want it now. And I don’t care if you want to give it to me or not. So I just take it. I take it although you said no to me. You told me that you don’t want me to take it. But I don’t care. I take it and if necessary I use force. I just take it. Is society claiming that you parked the car at the wrong place at the wrong time? Is society saying that you should have chosen another color or another brand? Is society saying that it’s your fault for whatever reason? No! In this case society accepts that something was done wrong and nobody questions it. If I would take your car I would be a thief, no matter what.

That is something that makes me incredibly angry and I just can’t understand why a life, a body has less value than a thing…

I’ve written about my feelings in regards to rape and abuse here as wel, if you’re interested at alll:
Feeling Numb
Second Chances? WTF!!!
What’s The Issue With Rape?

Rethinking Life

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We need to stop talking about this and start acting.  See this is when I can no longer be a peaceful person.  I think of baseball bats breaking legs and splitting heads open.  I think of watching rapists bleed out where they lay and smiling, thinking what a good day it is that one of them will never hurt anyone again.  That’s what this kind of thing does, it makes me want to do anything to make it STOP.  Men think women hate them.  I think they should wonder why we like any of them at all, when this is what they do to us. And no, we can’t tell the good guys from the bad guys.  It’s impossible, so don’t bother saying you would never do it because we can’t tell what any of you would do…not really.  Not ever.  Ask a woman who got…

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Blast From The Past – Feeling Numb

“The killer of Melbourne schoolgirl Masa Vukotic had an extensive history of violence against women and, the ABC understands, was out on bail at the time of the attack.”

This is how an article I’ve read yesterday started. And it makes me not only numb but also sick. When you continue reading it gets even worse and you start wondering what the justice system is really about… I’ve written a post about this a couple of months ago but reading this text stirs so many things in me yet again. How can it be? How can it be that criminals like him walk among us, like a ticking time bomb ready to do damage whenever they please to do?

The women he has previously raped or assaulted and Masa Vukotic will not have a second chance to a normal life. They will not have the chance for a plea hearing or for there sentence to be cut short. Masa Vukotic for sure doesn’t. Her family is grieving the loss of this young girl. And why? Because a sick pervert was left walking free although he should have been detained or supervised. Again I think that this is a life lost that could have been protected if the system would have done the right thing. And again I hope that lessons will be learned and things will be done differently in the future. Who knows…

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Worrying About The Future

WarmthIIDo you have moments like that? Moments you start worrying about the future? I do. Of course I do. We all do, right? Especially being a parent, having kids, a family. Life is different. You are no longer responsible for just only yourself and your well-being. There is so much more on stake. Now you have the responsibility for your kids as well.

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