Truly Listen And Really Look

Erika Kind has her way. She has a way of inspiring me. I read one of her posts today and couldn’t stop thinking about how we perceive people. To be honest I’m not even sure if my comment on her post and this post make any sense in connection to what she wrote.

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Blast From The Past – Let Go Of Expectations

Having witnesses a lot of mommy wars in certain comments on certain mommy blogs I not only started thinking about what actually triggers it but also about the expectations we have in ourselves and in other parents. How does a negative feedback on a thought we share affect us? How does a feedback influence what we expect others to do, to say, maybe to think and definitely to communicate? And how do expectations we have in ourselves and in others influence the feedback we give?

There’s a lot of pressure out there. Pressure that gets put on our shoulders and weights us down and pressure we actually put on ourselves. Why do we do it and how can we deal with it?

In my early stage of blogging I wrote a post about expectations and what they do to me. Maybe I would phrase it slightly differently today but I still feel the same. It’s time to shake them off or at least take control over them.

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Let’em Watch TV

Being a homeschooling mom I am constantly around my kids. Day in, day out. Sometimes it is like a walk in the park and sometimes it is hard work. Kind of like a normal job. You have your good days and your bad days. Even during the hard days I truly enjoy having them around. It is not their company that makes it hard, it is keeping them entertained after they are done with their lesson. It is tricky to not just park them in front of the TV or a device but rather have them do something that makes sense. I have mentioned before in my post that our kids do a lot of after school activities with other kids. And that kind of helps of course. Still there are a few hours to fill, which seem long on certain days. So how keep them entertained and keep them doing something they get something out of? Kids, homeschooling and TV, apparently a common mix. And a mix a lot of people have an opinion about…

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Why Is Being Myself Never Good Enough?

I wonder why it is always the people you think are the closest to you, who struggle the most with accepting who you really are? After writing one of my last posts, I couldn’t stop thinking about it. And then I had some comments on my post that made me realize that I am actually not alone. How can it be, that people who should know you the best, don’t know you at all? Or at least it seems like it…

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Enough Is Enough

When was the last time I felt ready to throw in the proverbial towel? When was the last time I had enough? Honestly, it actually happened pretty regularly for a long time. For way too long. First I felt strong and I thought I knew that if I face this person again or talk to this person I would be fine. But then during the encounter I suddenly realized that I started giving in. That the wall around me started crumbling. I found myself back in an old pattern. It hit me. It hit me hard. I felt bad. They managed to make me feel bad. Not only sad, but bad about myself, about my life, about decisions I’ve made. They managed to make me question myself. They managed to mess with my mind.

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