To all the wonderful moms out there: You are amazing!
To all the wonderful moms out there: You are amazing!
There is always something positive in every day, in every week, every moment. Often it’s just simply too hard to look for it. But when you do, you will see it. I challenge you: Do it! Once you see one positive thing it will lift the weight off your shoulders.
So let’s do this. Let’s kick off this week with a positive thought. By sharing something good, something that made you happy or you are looking forward to .
Before I’m going to share my good thing I’d like to invite you to go a bit crazy with me.
Does that feel good? Shall we do another round? I’m clapping over here because I think you are doing amazingly well. So do it again, let go, be crazy, wiggle and shake, loosen up. And when you are done, do another round! We are all cheering…
You think you are done? Are you sure? Really? Okay then.
Here is what I’d like to share with you today:
“It’s been a much better week and weekend. Mother’s Day was spent with my lovely family and they made a big brunch for me and then dinner in the evening. Honestly: I think I could have just survived on the brunch. I think it’s those little things that count. The extra hug I get the little letter form my daughter with some ‘free hugs’ and ‘free kisses’ vouchers and my son watching my favorite movie with me. They made me laugh and feel loved. And realize how lucky I am to have them in my life. How lucky I am to experience being a mother to two gorgeous children. A wonderful and extremely good thing indeed…”
Being a mother is a full time job. Actually it’s a 24/7 job. From the moment we open our eyes till the minute we fall asleep in one way or another we focus on our children. Even during the night. Have you realized that your sleep is not as deep as it used to be before you had children?
The interesting thing is that although it can be exhausting at times, we don’t really look at being a mother as a job in that sense. That’s because the things we do we do out of love. It’s natural, it’s normal, it’s who we are, who we want to be.
Our reward is not the paycheck at the end of the month. It’s not a promotion and it’s not an award. It’s a hug, a smile, a kiss. It’s seeing the sparkle in our children’s eyes. It’s seeing them happy, hearing them giggle. It’s their “mommy, I love you” or “you are the best mom ever”.
I often hear and sometimes say it myself: You give up a lot when you become a mother. But is it really a sacrifice? Not at all. While you give up some aspects of the life you knew you gain so many new ones for the years to come.
I think it was Steve Jobs who once said that old things have to leave in order to make room for new things (or something down that line). I guess you can apply that to phases of your life as well. This old you will have to make room for your new you. In order for you to grow. And clearly, as a parent we grow massively. The responsibility we have suddenly, the love we feel and give, the fears, sorrows and happiness we will encounter shape us.
Being a mom is tough at times. So is being a dad. We make mistakes. We don’t know the answer to everything. We wing it more often than we want to admit. It’s learning by doing without a manual that truly helps.
But when your kids tell you that you are the best mom ever, because you are always there for them it makes up for everything. When they tell you that they love you because you always look after them, because you give the best hugs and because you make them feel loved and understood, you know that you are on the right track. When your children look at you and you instantly know that this is what love is all about, you have clearly hit the jackpot.
We often refer to ourselves as being “just a mom”. But being “just a mom” is so much more than being anything else. And it’s sure something we all can be proud of.
Happy Mother’s Day 🙂
This is a post I wrote about a year ago for Mother’s Day as a guest blogger for The Champa Tree, an amazing blog about parenting that you should definitely check out. I came across it while re-organizing the categories of my blog. I thought as it is still so close to Mother’s Day it would be a good moment to share it again.
Today is all about moms. We celebrate our Moms and we get celebrated as moms. If we would have coffee together, hopefully sitting inside and being cozy, I would tell you about something I overheard today. I would tell you that I overheard a conversation that made me think. I heard a child ask his friend if he would also celebrate Mother’s Day. The answer to the why that followed this question was actually sort of simple, coming from a little boy: “Well, you are not staying with your Mom, you are staying with your Step-Mom today.”
Unfortunately I didn’t hear the answer. I would have loved to hear it and still wonder what it would have been. This question really got to me and in many ways almost made me sad.
If we would sit here together, having coffee (or tea or a hot chocolate) together, I would tell you that it makes me sad that a child might think a step-mom is worth less than the birth-mom. If we would have coffee together, I would tell you that I think a step-mom can be as amazing as a real mom. I even think that the bond can be as strong, maybe even stronger than with the “real” mom, depending on the circumstances. I would add that it also made me sad to think a child needs to answer a question like this. Somehow I think that this question was also slightly triggered by some comments the parents of the other boy might have made. Don’t you think so too?
Anyway… what happened this morning made me think of a post I wrote towards the end of last year and which I would love to share again today as a Blast From The Past with all of you. So in the spirit of Mother’s Day: As long as we behave like a mom, look after the children and love them from the bottom of our hearts, no matter if they kids are ours or our partner’s, we deserve to be celebrated.
I hope you will get spoiled by gifts coming from the heart, breakfast in bed, lunch, dinner, thousands of compliments, hugs and kisses.
I hope that you feel special, not only today but on every given day. This is the day to celebrate what we do, what and who we are. So celebrate it. Reflect on it and give yourself the pat on the shoulder you deserve!
Not sure what you guys are up to today but I hope you will get to sleep in and then get treated like a queen (so what are you actually up to?). It’s early morning here, the sky is grey, breakfast is ready and we will be off to the soccer game in a little while. I will share this morning with other fantastic moms, watching our girls play a game and most probably be washed out by rain and blown away by the wind. But that’s what moms do (and dads too…) and as much as we would like to stay home, tucked in into our cozy blankets and fed a 5-star breakfast in bed, nothing really beats standing in the rain and watching your daughters have fun…
Happy Mother’s Day!
Thank you, Mary, for this wonderful post!
As you enjoy this United States’ Mother’s Day weekend, consider: Women who are not mothers currently does not mean they do not WANT Motherhood, but that it has not opened up for them yet. Be hopeful and encouraging!
Marion Garrett stated, “A mother’s love is the fuel that enables a normal human being to do the impossible.”
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I should still be in bed, maybe still sleeping or maybe waiting for a delicious breakfast in bed made by my lovely family. Unfortunately I’m not… I’m up early, preparing breakfast for the kiddies, chopping oranges and getting lollies ready.
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