Sometimes it just clicks. With people, with pets and with places. Like puzzle pieces coming together, matching and meant to be connected. Connections like this will lead to something special, something great if we let it happen.
And Cee is back and so are her marvelous questions. Each week Cee poses a number of random questions for you to answer. It’s a great little challenge that sometimes makes me giggle, think hard, imagining things, remember moments from the past and sometimes struggle for an answer. If you have not checked out her challenge yet, you definitely should. But let’s not waste anymore time and get right to it…
Yeah, I got caught again. By my kids. When I was giving an answer that was… well… not a lie… but also not the truth. I was trying to find a way out of something without wanting to hurt that persons feeling. Yes, if you want to be super correct, it was not the truth. But sometimes the truth hurts, right? I mean, if you look at someone and think that they look super exhausted and probably gained a lot of weight and they then tell you how great they feel because they are on a new diet and that they fit in cloths again they weren’t able to wear… you can’t really tell them that you don’t agree. You would either not say anything or tell them that they look good. Or maybe that’s just me…
But where do you draw the line. Where is a lie a lie and where is it just a cop out? Where can you get away with it because “lying” actually doesn’t do as much damage as there would be if you’d tell the truth?
I’ve mentioned before that one of my friends is really sick. For a long time nobody really knew how sick she was. She was telling everyone that she is in therapy and that it progresses step by step while it was no longer about actually healing but trying to give her as much time as possible. Not even her family knew. So where is the line? Where is the line between protecting yourself and others and a damaging and hurtful straight out lie?
While I was thinking about this I remembered a post I shared a long time ago. After a conversation I had with another friend of mine. And I’d like to bring it up again, as a Blast Of The Past. I would love to hear your thoughts about it, so please don’t be shy and comment. Oh and: No white lies, please 😉
Yup! Momma uses the jerk word. And I’m not talking about jerk chicken or the spice today. Nope. I want to say something about jerks. Because they are out there. And although I really like people and always want to only see the good in them some of them are jerks. Right?
Like the one who physically attacks his teenage nephew who stands up for his aunt while she gets verbally abused.
Or the one who reaches out to a woman under falls pretense to try to meet for coffee and then wants to have sex with her. After all she agreed to meet.
Or the one who was lifted into way better positions in a company by his friend although he simply wasn’t cut out for the job but then backstabs his friend and gets him fired.
Or the one that cheats on his wife for years but lives from the salary she brings home.
Then there is the one who says one nasty word after another to someone until that person feels like they are not worth living anymore.
I bet you could add on to this list. Because we all know at least one jerk out there.
So please: Don’t be a jerk. Be better. Be kind. Be honest. Be fair. And make sure we are not suddenly surrounded by jerks but by wonderful people. Just like with Yin and Yang it needs both of them. But I for sure hope that it will be at least balanced.
I read a great post on Coach Daddy yesterday and funny enough my son has decided to bake something today and is using the same ingredients mentioned in Eli’s post. While reading Eli’s post I couldn’t stop thinking about people. The wheel in my head started spinning. There you are, having flour, salt, brown sugar, maybe cacao powder, baking powder ready to use. By now you might wonder what people, sugar, flour, salt, baking powder or soda or cacao powder have in common. Bare with me…
You see all the different ingredients, you look at their different colors, textures and shapes. Everything is so very different and yet some are so similar. Again I can’t help but think of people. The wheel is still spinning…
Some might say that there is no coincidence in life. Things happen for a reason. I do believe that too. Just like things happen for a reason, we also meet people for a specific reason. We might not know why at the beginning and see it as one of the connections we just simply make. But in the long shot it will all fall in place. Everyone teaches you some sort of a lesson. It’s another piece for you to add to your puzzle of life.
I’m currently dealing with someone I have met by coincidence. While for many years I never realized why this person would have entered my life it all makes sense today. Without this person some things would simply not be that easy to handle right now. It made me think of other connections I made over the years and this post here, that I like to share as a Blast From The Past came to mind. For now I just want to say one thing: The people that play some kind of a role in your life are there for a reason. They teach you something. You just have to see it. Eventually it will all make sense.
That’s what we are all about… by the way, the greeting thing is actually a thing. I have to say that after 10 years of living in a different country I still greet everyone I see. Sometimes they look at me as if I’m nuts, sometimes they react as if I woke them up and sometimes they simply greet back with a big smile on their face…