The shops were full with heart shaped boxes of chocolate, flowers and advertising about making sure you buy something nice for your Valentine were everywhere. Every year it gets me. And I admit I did it too, I advertised my products in connection to V-Day in a different way too. Trying to make a sale, trying to convince someone they need to buy it in order to make their loved ones happy.
But is the gift really what matters? Is it really only about an item to purchase and then gift? Is it how we show our affection and love? Is this entire hype not much more about making a sale? Filling tables in the restaurants, selling the bubbly? Do we really need to buy stuff to show our love to each other?
I don’t think so. V-Day is part of our society. It’s nice to have a day to celebrate relationships. Just like Mother’s Day and Father’s Day. I don’t have an issue with that. But where does it stop. You have birthdays, Christmas, name days (who celebrates them?), Mother’s Day, Father’s Day, Valentine’s Day, Christmas in July (yes that’s a thing here in Australia) and so on. They all have one thing in common: They make us believe that we have to head out and buy a gift or gifts for the people we care about. And we expect to get a gift too.
Recently I heard a statement of a young woman: “And you know what he did? He bought me the handbag and told me what it is before he gave it to me. That was it. My day was ruined…” So that guy heads out, spends heaps of money on a handbag (heaps!) and then gets so excited because he knows that she always wanted that handbag that he can’t wait any longer to give it to her and then her day is ruined? Seriously?
So much pressure! Pressure on people buying things, wrapping it right, presenting it right and in the right moment, the right day, the right time. Instead of going with the flow and gifting a gift when you feel like it. Out of the blue, unexpected. Just like that. Because we want to. Not because and ad tells us to.
I’m not saying it’s all wrong. I love all those special days too. But keep it real. Keep in mind what it’s about. It’s not about filling the bank account of some company. It’s about a genuine gift for someone you care about. It’s about appreciation for each other. And that you can show in any form at any time… no need for a special day… Buy that special something on that odd day, when you feel like it. Write a card on Valentine’s Day to let them know how much you love them. Don’t get blamed into having to run after a gift. Tell your special person what they mean to you. In your way. In your words…
It is everywhere and it’s strong. Love. A deep feeling, that leaves us longing, gives us butterflies, happiness, blues but also a feeling of belonging. The most beautiful thing in life is when you find the right person to share it with, to walk next to each other, carry each other, lift each other up, support each other, make each other better. It’s about your “partner in crime”, the one you can steal horses with, the one you want to build on for the rest of your life. It’s about give and take.
I have found my other half and I’m sure glad I did. I know we have something special and I’m grateful for it every single day. We have a story. A story that started many years ago and is still a work in progress. I find a couple’s story one of the most beautiful things to hear or read and luckily many of you already shared yours with me to highlight on my blog in my feature Couples – Your Stories.
Do you have a story to share? A story about your special someone? I would love to hear it. It’s easy, you know. Just email it to firstname.lastname@example.org (or leave the link to it in the comments) and I will share it on my blog and link back to yours. All those stories are special and every single one of them puts a smile on people’s faces 🙂
This is also my last post for the Song A Day Challenge. Thanks heaps to The Bag Lady, who has nominated me for this fun little exercise. Today I would like to invite For The Love Of Facts to participate. Have heaps of fun and I can’t wait to check out your song choices 😉
The rules are:
- Post a song a Day for five consecutive days
- Post what the lyrics mean to you ( optional)
- Post the name of the song and video
- Nominate two different bloggers each day of the challenge.
It’s been a while since I shared one of the amazing love stories of my readers. Frankly, my dear blogging friend Shop Girl Anonymous has actually shared this story with me a long time ago but it seems like I have forgotten (so so so so so sorry…) to put it up… Here it is. Finally! Another wonderful love story, showcasing that we simply find to each other when time is right. Thank you so much, for sharing your story with me!
This is another beautiful love story. Thank you so much for sharing the link to this post with me. I wish you many, many, many more beautiful years together xoxo.
If you have a love story to share, please let me know. You can either send me the link to it or write it all down for me to be put up on my blog. Just email me: email@example.com
It was 9 years ago when I had my own family. I was too young to become a mom and wife. Just 17 years old. Back then, I thought that at my age I should have been at parties and enjoying my college life but there I was, thinking about the future of the little life inside my tummy and my husband who’s as young as me. I was still studying that time and did not want to stop going to school. My dream is to finish my studies and my husband/bf gave way so I could fulfill my dreams. He worked hard to finance my schooling and to give our baby’s needs. He was 16. Fast forward 2016, now I have a stable job and I am helping him earn for our family’s future.
More than his perseverance to provide for our family, I will forever be grateful to…
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What is your story? Your personal love story? The story of you and your partner? How did you meet, what did you feel? Was it love at first sight? Did you know?
I love sharing beautiful love stories on my blog. If you are in love, in a relationship, please tell your story. Share it with me and my readers bu simply email the story or the link to it to firstname.lastname@example.org.
I’ve shared many already and I think yours deserves to be among them too.
I love it when bloggers share their love stories. Tell it in their words. There is always something fascinating in how people meet, how life brings leads us to each other when the time is right, when our hearts are open. Thank you so much Lifeinperspectiveweb for sharing your story today. Sometimes the ride is smooth, sometimes it feels rocky. In the end it’s what we make of it and how we come out on the other side.
If you would like to share how you met your partner then please email your story to me. I’m more than happy to share it here 🙂
Another beautiful love story I’m allowed to share on my blog. There’s love everywhere. The tricky part is to find it but when you do, you will know it…
Twenty-five years (September 1, 1991) ago I drove North East with my good friend and her cousin. We were going to a tiny place called Seton Portage, where her other cousin, her husband, and their son lived.
We stayed in a motel which was right beside their house trailer and across from the bar/restaurant. Did I mention this place was tiny?
I wasn’t a real bar person so while they were all having drinks and playing pool, I sat over on the other side doing what I love to do, people-watching!
I walked up to the bar and there was a guy stocking the beer cooler and I asked for a root beer. We had a 5 or 10 minute conversation with the usual small-talk questions. We found out that we were both from the Lower Mainland. He was up helping his sister and brother-in-law who had just bought the…
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Look at that, another wonderful love story for me to share! How fantastic is that. It’s truly a good start into my new week. Stories like this one just put a smile on my face. Thank you so much for sharing your lovely story, Jessica. Usually I just put the link to the blog of the lovebird sharing the story up but in this case there are two links. Show Jessica some love and visit her blogs Shop Girl Anonymous and Step-Parent’s Sanctuary a visit. You will love the contents there. But now to her love story…
Thank you so much, Mimi, for sharing your beautiful story. I think it is amazing to see how people meet, how it clicks in the most unlikely moments and places. In moments you don’t expect it. These are life’s true love stories.
If you have a story to share, please leave the link in the comments or email it to me. I would love to post it on my blog. Nothing better than a wonderful love story 🙂