Feeling Cheated On

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I had a post in my mind that I wanted to write today. But I totally forgot what it was about. Has that ever happened to you? Have you ever had a post clearly structured in your mind and then you forgot everything about it? I forgot about it because my mind got occupied with all the thoughts triggered by my reblog of the question “would you want to know” and the comments of all of you.

Triggered by a comment I believe we need to differentiate between would you want to know at all or would you rather not know forever. If you would find it out would you want your partner to be the bearer of the bad news or would it make no difference to you and the decision you’d make if your partner would break the news or someone else?

I’m not sure of course where you are at but I think I would want to know anyway. If you never know it’s a big secret to be kept. I get that in some cases it seems better to not say anything because of the impact it might have and because in the end it really didn’t matter that much. How can it not matter? It matters of course but in my books if it’s only been about sex then it doesn’t matter as much as if it includes more.

Yes, I call it “just” sex. Because I think that sex is not the most important ingredient in a working relationship. Hang on, not just in a working but actually in a good relationship. It’s not. It’s one of the spices you put in there but the basics are so many different things.

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Lilith – Did You Know…

… That there was a woman before Eve? You probably did but for those of you who did not, her name was Lilith. And boy, was she different! This post is about Lilith but it’s about so much more.

I was always fascinated by Lilith, from the first moment I heard about her (which was only the case when I was already married). To be honest, I actually think we need to be a bit of a Lilith if we want to be true to ourselves. But then I might not see the entire picture.

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Let’s Get Naked

Yep, you heard me right. Let’s get naked. But not the naked you think of. I’m talking about another kind of naked.

If you follow me for a while you might have realized how much I like TEDtalks. Every now and then I post one here and share my thoughts about it too. As I just did yesterday and am about to do now. I found this one while I was looking for the “Stripped Bare” one and of course the title caught my attention.I was pretty sure that it would not be about undressing. Or maybe it would?

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Does It Bring You Happiness?

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Yes, me too… I will write about it too. And simply because I really have to say something about it, as so many of you did too. It’s not just because there is no way to escape posts (check one of them out here, please), articles or discussions on TV about Caitlyn Jenner. It’s all over the news and the gossip media. I’ve read a few but for sure not all of them. Her journey was always of interest to me, not because of all the crap the Kardashians do on TV.

I have a friend who is transgender. And her journey was far from easy.

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