If there were a real Fountain of Youth, would you drink the water?
As I’m closer to 50 now than to 30 I often think about how “old” I am. When we were kids women in their 40’s seemed so old. They were mom’s with already pretty big kids and many of them had cut their hair short and changed their style of dressing to what was labeled as “appropriate for their age”. But was is appropriate for an age group?
I remember being at Uni and a girl who I used to sit next to during lectures. She was dating a guy who lived in the town next to where I grew up and had just spent a couple of days somewhere on a beach with him and his parents. His mom must have been in her very early 50’s then and honestly looked more like being in her late 30’s. She was super fit and healthy and I always thought that I’d wish to look like her when reaching the big 5.
So this girl was talking about their days on the beach and then got really upset about the fact that the “mother-in-law” had the guts to wear a bikini. She said something down the line of “it’s just not appropriate in her age anymore”. I couldn’t believe my ears and my eyes as I saw the almost disgust expression on her face.
There are so many things wrong with saying something like this!
First of all: Everyone should be able a bikini if they feel comfortable in their skin, no matter what others think. If you don’t like the way it looks just simply don’t look at them!
Just because someone reached a certain age doesn’t mean they have to change the way they dress from cool to boring. Again: They should wear whatever feels comfortable to them and they like to wear. If you don’t like it, don’t look at it.
Now back to the question. Would I drink the water of a fountain of youth if one existed?
Frankly, I don’t think so.
I truly believe that you are as old as you feel. Sometimes that might be older than your actual age and sometimes it might be much younger. I know that they say 40 is the new 30 and so on. And frankly I do like the idea. Not because I don’t want to be 40 something but because it kind of tells me that I might be around to enjoy this beautiful life for a tiny bit longer than generations before ours might have been.
I feel comfortable in my skin, although there are some wrinkles I never had with 20. My body doesn’t look the way it did 20 years ago but I like how it is today as much as I did back then. The red color of my hair might not be as deep as it was 20 years ago but it’s still special and beautiful and I know it will always be special and beautiful.
We always look at getting older in a negative way. We tend to only see the “downside” of a changing body, a changing skin, changing color of the hair. Yes, we have to put more effort into keeping fit and healthy and recovery takes longer than it used to. But what about the upside?
Have you ever considered the upside of not being 20 any more?
I’m for sure much wiser today than I was 20 years ago. I am so much more grounded and I for sure know what I want from life. Would I want to swap that for a younger look? Nope.
I think we need to see getting older as a privilege and something beautiful. We have to stop looking at old people as if they are an annoying side effect of life. We need to get back to looking at them as the wise ones, the ones that can tell us about the past and teach us things (I know, I know, not everyone is wise enough… but hey, you can filter them out, right?).
Moving through the different stages of life is like going through a year and it’s seasons. There’s spring when everything sprouts and grows and is fresh and vivid. Then there’s summer when everything is in it’s fullest and then there’s fall and eventually winter. I’m at the end of my summer and getting into fall. And I’m excited about it (falls my favorite season anyway). I’m glad I made it to this point of life and thankful for they way I made it here. I’m excited to discover what’s still in front of me although I know that from now on, it will get “chillier”.
Life is what life is about. A cycle we should respect and a ride we should enjoy.
Inspired by the Daily Post Daily Prompt – Forever Young
for me–This is the time to realize my dreams …I accept myself (mostly) have the knowledge I wanted, did many of the things I wanted to do, and have found what I think of as grace. I enjoyed my youth, I am enjoying my maturity.
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Well said and what I feel like too.
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It feels wonderful and more pointedly, I am blessed to be here…
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Very good to read. I’m also heading into autumn, though not sure how I feel about it. Every day counts I guess.
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Yes, they do. It might catch up with me at one point but it hasn’t so far. Pretty happy with where I’m at at the moment although the body is for sure not what it used to be 😜
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Mine neither and I’m glad to be alive, but I must be honest and say I don’t want an “old” body lol! Please no!
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There’s a lot you can do with healthy eating and working out… Something I definitely need to start doing again 😜
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Indeed!
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Love it, Sandra. Aging is what we make out of it.
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Indeed. I remember a friend freaking out when she turned 30, claiming life was over… I could only shake my head… If you have such an attitude it will only get harder the older you get. I mean 30!!!! Best time of your life starts then in my books…
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Is your friend kind of related to me? Sounds like my sister in-law… lol She has problems with every year and it started with 30 as well. Then she had her first child with 38 and her second with 42. Now she is all of a sudden is shocked that she is already 46 and has that young children… yeah, that wasn’t predictable of course…lol
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Hehehe… Nope, she had her first and only one just before she hit 30…
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At least that 😉
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anyone can wear a bikini? you don’t want to see me in a bikini. no, that would scare you so much you would be going to church 3 – 4 times a week.
nice post!
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Oh that would actually take much more (to get me to go to church 3-4 times a week…) 😜
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there is always the possibility for a life changing and earth shattering moment 😉
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Hehehehe
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LOL! you ginger haired ladies are something else. 😉
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Oh for sure.
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😉
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Aging is a beautiful thing. That’s why I’m not a fan of plastic surgery and wrinkle ‘therapy’ for older adults. We should enjoy the natural beauty that only aging can offer. Like you, I’m glad that I’m not young anymore. It has its advantages, sure, but I much rather be wiser by having the knowledge that I have now.
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Oh I’m not a fan of all those adjustments! Takes the character out of a face…
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This reminds me of a conversation I had with my 81 year old mom just this week. She’d sent pictures of herself taken at a wedding with the comments “more horrible pictures of me.” When I looked at them I saw, up close and clearly, a woman who looks her age. I told Mom I thought they were good photos of her and/but showed her wrinkles, as one would expect to see at her age. I prefer that to some other women (and now even men, I guess) “of a certain age” who take measures to preclude that aging from showing. I think they often appear foolish, instead of wise as they should be if they’ve reached “a certain age.”
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I completely agree with you. Although I understand that it’s not fun to admit our age at times and we may miss our youthful appearance, it is that natural look that comes with age that makes older people so beautiful. Those wrinkles say, “I’ve lived.” They are proof of our own life story.
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I totally agree with you.
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I think wrinkles make a face interesting. I don’t like faces that look like they’ve been ironed. It’s just not nice.
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Age is but a number! As you aptly close the post with alphaville’s forever young! Love that song! Good (crazy) retro memories! 🙂
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Haha. Yep. From the moment I saw the prompt the song was playing in my head 🙂
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beautiful!! thank you xo
“I believe the second half of one’s life is meant to be better than the first half. The first half is finding out how you do it. And the second half is enjoying it.” ~ Frances Lear
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We should really be thankful that we are able to reach the golden age (loved the quote!), I must admit I don’t like being old physically as I can’t catch up with my kid’s energy, however I like the fact that I’ve become wiser although I think I’m still a child at heart 🙂
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I agree with all you said and still I like to be where I am. 🙂
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Blessed are those who knows what they like/want 🙂 Keep the joy!
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I would never want to go back, especially to my 20’s. The 30’s and 40’s were great for me, so full of energy and joy. But, I still wouldn’t go back. I’m enjoying each decade for very different reasons. And as the quote says, not many get that privilege. Nice post, Sandra. 💕
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Thanks, Van 😘
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