Blast From The Past – A Smile On The Run

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I consider myself a friendly person. A person who happily “gives away” a smile. I find a smile is contagious. And it immediately makes you feel better. A smile puts a smile on someone’s face. I love watching the kids smile as they do something they enjoy, watch something they like or look forward to something.

And while I was watching my daughter smile while looking at a couple of pictures of her and her friends, I couldn’t help myself smile as well, although seconds before I didn’t feel like smiling at all. I thought about how sad the world would be without those smiles. How people would probably interact even less. Suddenly I remembered a book Nicolas C. Rossi wrote and I started digging for the post which I’d love to share here as a Blast From The Past.

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Tell Me Something Good #108

It’s Monday here in beautiful Australia. The days are definitely much shorter now and it’s getting cooler too. Fall and winter bring some other things along like little bugs bugging you with colds. But hey, it’s not a big deal really. Monday is that kind of day that is often frowned upon. Because the grind starts all over again. Even my son said to me today that he thinks Monday is an annoying day as it’s back to school… I had to remind him that we just did a nice walk along the beach before school and that all his friends were sitting in a class room at this point. The beauty of homeschooling…

But I totally understood him. And it made me think about all the people who hate what they do and still have to head to work every day, over and over again. It’s not Monday’s fault that the grind starts all over on that specific day. It’s how we define it.

I remember back in the days when I was still in school. Businesses were closed on the weekends. Work started at 8 or 9 and then there was a lunch break. And everyone was done by 5 or 6pm. Now many businesses run over the weekend. There are hardly any proper breaks. It all flows. So why is it that Monday is still the “yuck’ day?

How about we look at Monday in a different way? How about we look at Monday as a great day to be alive? Because, let’s be honest: Every day is a great day to be alive really…

So let’s kick this week off on a positive note:

It’s easy:

• Mention something that you consider being good in the comments

• Or write a post about it on your blog (please don’t forget the pingback if you do so I don’t miss out and also share the link to it in the comments below). Something good that happened to you recently, or something good you will experience in a little while, or something good you know will happen soon. Something that makes you feel good.

• Share this post and invite your followers as well.

You know it by now! We are not moving any further without a little happy dance (I might run out of gifs for happy dances soon…). So shake those hips and whatever else you need to shake and dance…

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I know you have another round in you, so don’t give up just yet. Dance until you smile…

And once you’re done here is what I’d like to share with you today:

“Today I simply celebrate to be healthy and alive. To be able to walk and see, smell, hear, taste. To be able to hug my children, being hugged and have the most amazing friends and family every. Sometimes the little things in life are the biggest ones ever…”

Narcissism

I didn’t even know that there was a name for this person. For the person I thought loves me so much but had to realize that it was only about that person and nobody else. Then I started blogging. And step by step I started realizing that there was a name, there was a word for the behavior: Narcissism.

I will not give the person the space here but I still want to write about narcissism. About what it can do to you. About the long term effects their influence can have on you.

I was lucky. Lucky to find a good partner. A partner who not only gave me support, not only listened and dealt with my up and downs but also set things right. He told me from the very beginning that it wasn’t me. That there was nothing wrong with me, the things I wanted, dreamed of, wished for or wanted to achieve. He mentioned every now and then that maybe the other person was wrong. Which then got him in trouble. A little bit with me but mainly with that person.

We were strong enough to get through this and I have to say that blogging helped me. Not because I wrote about the insecurities I felt. Or that I thought I wasn’t smart enough for things or good enough for others. But because I read your stories. All the stories bloggers shared about their experience. Their stories about narcissism. And it opened my eyes. I understood that the person was manipulating me. That what was claimed to be done “just for me” was really not about me at all. Little by little I grew again. I let go. Let go of the toxic influence, of the pressure, the pain, the struggle.

It takes a lot to free yourself of the fangs of a narcissist. It’s a struggle. Especially if you grew up with one. Their influence goes deep and you’ve gone through programming. It’s hard to brake lose of those chains, to create new habits. To actually start believing in yourself and your abilities. It takes a massive amount of work to actually understand who you are and what you are capable of.

And it all needs support. Understanding. And Love.

I’m glad. I’m glad I found the right partner. Someone who stuck to me no matter what and believed in me. Someone who saw me for who I really was and wanted the real me. I’m also glad (and that might sound weird) for the experience. It was a lesson. A lesson of how not to treat people and what not to accept. A lesson of love and support, of growth.

All I can say is that no matter what people try to make you believe or tell you to do: Believe in yourself and stick up for yourself. Even if it’s hard. Toxic people come in many shapes and forms and roles. Sometimes they sneak in from the outside, sometimes they are part of the family. No matter who they are: You don’t have to accept them and their treatment. You are worth so much more…

Tell Me Something Good #107

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I want to start this weeks TMSG post with a quote about happiness rather than Monday. There is so much on my mind at the moment that has a lot to do with happiness and I will get to it later.

I want to start the week with a positive post but I struggle today. It’s been a “bla” day. Mainly because of the fact that it was Mother’s Day yesterday and it was so beautiful to spend it with my family. Now you probably think I’m all nuts. But I explain:

My friend is very sick. I have mentioned it before. She has been moved to palliative care recently and we all know what that means. She got a “get out of jail card” yesterday as she calls it: She was allowed to leave the hospital for a couple of hours to spend the time at home with her family. While she was able to go home she still missed out on so much. Like the soccer game our girls played and seeing them win. She missed out on seeing her daughter be an amazing defender. She missed out on them running through a banner that was made to celebrate their 100th game. And she will miss out on so much in the future.

We had planned for me to go visit her today but she was too exhausted. Physically and mentally. So I didn’t get to see her.

So back to happiness: We all hold the key to happiness in our hands. And my friend is an incredible example of this. Because while she has all the reasons to not be happy, she still is. And it blows my mind so often. She teaches us an incredible lesson. She let’s go of the dark and invites the light. In doing so she creates that happiness that then surrounds her and finds its way to everyone around her.

I’d like to ask you today to take a moment to think about this and then decide what you want to do in the future. If you want to hold that key to happiness and be in charge or if you want circumstances to control your life. I know that this post is very different to my usual TMSG posts but I simply needed this today.

So for all of you who would like to play along and stick to “da rules”, here they are:

It’s easy:

• Mention something that you consider being good in the comments

• Or write a post about it on your blog (please don’t forget the pingback if you do so I don’t miss out and also share the link to it in the comments below). Something good that happened to you recently, or something good you will experience in a little while, or something good you know will happen soon. Something that makes you feel good.

• Share this post and invite your followers as well.

Now although this is different there is simply no way around a happy dance, people… so here it is 😉

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3 Days, 3 Quotes, 3 Tags – Day 3

Wow, I’ve already reached Day 3 in my quest to conquer this challenge. I’ve been recently nominated for the 3 Days, 3 Quotes, 3 Tags challenge by the mysterious cosistories. Mysterious just because her “About” or introduction which I still find one of the best ones out there. Don’t know cosistories? Well then head over! Time to see for yourself how the posts flow… And to you, AK, thanks heaps for nominating me for the challenge. I love quotes and therefore I love this challenge 🙂

Now to the challenge:

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Tell Me Something Good #106

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It definitely can! So don’t get stuck in negative thoughts. Get yourself to see the good things that are waiting for you or that you just enjoyed. And then keep that smile on your face and the good vibe in your heart and tackle the week. Let’s do it! Let’s kick off this week on a positive note!

It’s easy:

• Mention something that you consider being good in the comments

• Or write a post about it on your blog (please don’t forget the pingback if you do so I don’t miss out and also share the link to it in the comments below). Something good that happened to you recently, or something good you will experience in a little while, or something good you know will happen soon. Something that makes you feel good.

• Share this post and invite your followers as well.

You know it by now! We are not moving any further without a little happy dance (I might run out of gifs for happy dances soon…). So shake those hips and whatever else you need to shake and dance…

dance dancing GIF

I know you have another round in you, so don’t give up just yet. Dance until you smile…

And once you’re done here is what I’d like to share with you today:

“I thought I so often mention what made me happy that I should share what I’m looking forward to this week. So here we go: I’m really looking forward on seeing a dear friend of ours again end of the week. I also have a couple of catch ups and meetings planned for this week with people I really like so it doesn’t really matter what the outcome will be business-wise. And I want to go for a long walk along the beach again too, ideally together with the kids if they both are up for it. If not I will just go with the dogs and enjoy some me time.

The weather has been wonderful the last couple of days. nice and warm fall days and it seems to continue like this. So outside time is what I definitely will incorporate in my schedule. It simply feels so good to feel the warm sun on your back when walking along the ocean or hiking. You all know that fall is my favorite season and I really take it all in at the moment. My kids give me that kind of look when I explain to them once again how nice the air smells and start describing the smell of the leaves on the ground. Not sure if they get it just yet but I think one day they will do the same. Because all seasons smell different and it’s so nice to breathe it in and experience it…”

Too Old…

Interesting how suddenly something pops up that starts your mind spinning in circles, pondering about what you just read… It was a post about feeling too old to start certain things. Too old because that person hit 50. That woman hit 50.

I’m not far off of the big 5. But I don’t feel like I’m too old. Nobody should.

Nobody should feel too old to try to achieve dreams they had for years. Nobody should be too old to chase after dreams they just only started having. Nobody should feel too old to pursue them. Nobody should feel too old to live their life to the fullest. Nobody should feel too old to do what makes them truly happy, even if that means changing career. Nobody should feel too old to make a difference even if they turn 100. Nobody should feel too old to focus on what’s really important to them.

I recently read something that I really liked and suits this post perfectly: “Right now is the oldest you’ve ever been and the youngest you’ll ever be.”

So I wonder: What are we all waiting for? Why are we so hesitant to do what we think would make us truly happy? If not now then when? And why not now? Why not start something new now? Why not chase your dreams now? Why always wait for the perfect day that might never come because frankly there is never a perfect moment for change.

There are always a thousand reasons why you should not change things. But deep in your heart you know you have to. Because you know it’s not right.

Do it! Don’t wait. Because you never know if tomorrow will actually come. And maybe you might just miss your chance if you keep waiting for a better day to make it happen…

Adjust the Sails…

Sometimes our journey is smooth, easy. Sometimes it feels like battling a storm. Recently I listened to a woman talking about chasing your dreams. About dreaming big and reaching for the stars.

She said trust in the universe but also detach yourself from the outcome. The universe has plans for you and if your plans and the ones the universe has for you don’t overlap, you will be pushed into the right direction. And it will all be fine in the end.

I believe too often we fight that moment. We are so set on what we think is right that we don’t see the other options or possibilities. We fight the storm rather than adjusting the sails. And maybe we miss out on the ride of a lifetime.

So next time don’t be scared. Adjust your sails. Use the wind to push you forward and sail with it…